July/August G2K Cindy and Cathy

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July/August G2K Cindy and Cathy
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Wed, 07-11-2012 - 8:48pm


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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 8:24am

I held hot compresses on my eye several times a day, and it did finally drain.  It was still a little sore yesterday, and today it doesn't hurt at all.  I am so thankful to have that getting better.  The only thing it stopped me from doing was reading.  I was finally able to read before bed again last night.  :smileyhappy:

Awww to Leah crawling.  The kids are growing so quickly.  I remember when I was anxiously waiting for JJ to be able to entertain himself for awhile.  I am big on teaching my kids independent play.  Because I didn't entertain my kids for every waking hour, they can both play in their rooms alone for at least 30 minutes now.  Actually, JJ is starting to transition out of naps.  On non sleep days, he plays quietly in his room for two hours.

I'm glad my little "kitchen in the garage" doesn't sound too strange.  Dh actually wanted me to put the appliances in the attic.  The only problem with that is the access to our attic is a pull down ladder.  I asked him to picture me trying to come down that ladder with the bread maker in my hands.  That is when he agreed to put them in the garage.  But he still complains about it whenever I mention it, lol.

I just ordered myself a Bible in a year Chronological NLT Bible.   I am hoping having it in order, and more story like will help me stick to my reading.  I also have trouble remembering what I read a lot, so hopefully this version will help with that as well.  I would really love to go to a Bible study, but don't have the time IRL.  I suggested an online Bible study on the Christian Bookshelf board.  If they are not interested, I ask the ladies here.  I just thought the book board made more sense.  Especially since they have been attempted here and fizzled out.  :smileysad:

I should get going.  I need to make chocolate peanut butter cheese cake and home made vanilla ice cream for a birthday get together here today.  I also have to make a pasta salad and chocolate chip cookies for the picnic at church tomorrow.  Busy day.

OH!  I forgot to tell you.  I am finally getting Baptized next Sunday!!  I haven't been able to do it for years.  The first two times they did it I was pregnant.  I didn't feel comfortable climbing in and out of the tank with the belly.  After that I would never sign up because if dh got stuck at work I wouldn't have been able to get there.  Plus, I was embarrassed to get my large self on that stage and have wet clothes clinging to me.  I know that shouldn't have worried about that, but sadly, my self esteem was very low back then.  This year I have none of those issues!  I am very excited about it.


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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 10:41am
I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to go to the doctor. I think last time we were prayer partners, I was having a dilemma about switching primary care docs. I still haven't done it. A few months ago, I had to see a chiropractor, and I was in there twice a week for 5 weeks straight. And I had just gotten used to life post-pregnancy - at the end of my pregnancy, I was seeing doctors 3 times per week sometimes!

Do you think your sty will go away by itself? Does it impede anything you do (can you see)?

DH used to be a financial counselor, which he could do mostly from home. He'd meet with clients at church, but everything else was home-based. That was great because it has purpose and was at home, but that business died. Yesterday I suggested he become a gun instructor, because he's good at showing people safety and helping them have fun. He thinks there isn't enough of a market... but he at least entertained the idea.

I haven't really gotten any time to relax, but at least now that Leah is crawling, she will play independently for several minutes at a time, so I can sit and catch my breath. This weekend my sister will be in town, so we're all going to my parents' house - not sure if that will be restful or not.

My house is a wreck too! Trying not to think about it, because I don't have the time/energy to deal with it.

I don't think it sounds weird at all for you to put appliances in the garage, especially if you do it nicely with cabinets and a rug. When DH and I still lived in our condo and were renovating our kitchen, our fridge was in the garage. It wasn't weird at all - it actually felt very natural. Then again, our garage in our condo was connected to everyone else's, so not sure what our neighbors thought about that!

have a good weekend!
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Thu, 08-09-2012 - 8:34am

Why do people always have to have something to say?  That is crazy that you have people telling you Andrew needs speech therapy.  You are right, us moms do know.  I wish I had followed my gut earlier and called sooner, but I let other people influence me.  Lesson learned.  :smileywink:

Yikes to them wanting you to run a nursery with a newborn.  That would be way too much!

We did go to the dentist.  I do plan on talking to my dr about my scalp.  If I am able to control it for now, I would like to wait for my next scheduled appt to talk to her.  I am tired of going to the dr.  I know that sounds silly, but I have had to go a lot lately.  I did determine that I have a sty and not a bug bite.  So now I am watching that.  If that doesn't heal up with home treatment, I will have to cal the dr anyway.  Only time will tell.

I understand your dh wanting to be a provider for his family.  That is how men are wired.  He is going to have a tough time finding an at home job with a purpose.  I looked into home jobs a couple of years ago, and there is not much out there.  That is why I started babysitting.  I charge very little, that way I can be a blessing to other families when they need a sitter.

Oh no to screaming kids during your call!  Why does that always happen?  It happens here as well.

It sounds like a busy week for you.  I hope you are able to find some sort of relax time in there somewhere.  I haven't been doing too much this week simply because I am exhausted.  Between af and all my afflictions, it sucked the energy right out of me.   I hope I get healed up this week.  I am going to my first PTA meeting next week, and am going to meet everybody for the first time.  I would like to be my normal self when I go.

Today I am going to try to catch up on the house work I have neglected this week.  I need to start getting things together for the church garage sale, and make arrangements for transforming my mudroom into a dining room.  I can't wait to do that!  I am going to put our freezer and shelf of extra small appliances in the garage.  Dh doesn't want that stuff out there, but there is no where else to put it.  I am going to take one corner, get some nice cabinets for the appliances, and even put a little rug out there.  I told him it will actually look nice, not just like a bunch of stuff thrown out there.  I know it's not a normal set up, but our house is small and we have to make do with what we have.  :smileyhappy:


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Wed, 08-08-2012 - 7:44am
Its funny, we had the exact opposite situation with Andrew's speech. People were always bugging us about why we did NOT take him to speech therapy. Even a month ago, my dad asked DH if Andrew should get speech therapy, and Andrew talks constantly now, and with the exception of a couple letter sounds that he gets wrong (which is perfectly normal at this age), he's talking great. People just want to share their opinions I guess... and it does NOT take a village to raise a child, mom's intuition is always best!

I did the same thing - I used to work the nursery on Weds, but when I was pregnant with Leah, I had to stop, because I was so tired and overwhelmed by the GD. It was kinda crazy - when I was pregnant with Leah, I had a meltdown in front of the pastor, and he suggested I go to every other week. That was probably July of last year. Then in August, they asked me to be totally in charge of the nursery (every week) starting in Sept! Leah was due early Oct, but by then, I knew she'd be induced at the end of Sept. I almost said "are you nuts!" How am I supposed to run the nursery with a newborn that I would be nursing?!

The meeting with the employee was rough. I never actually said that he was in danger of getting fired, because I didn't know if I was allowed to (HR / CYA), but I think he got the point. Its sad because he does honestly try and care, but he just doesn't have the skills. I think he got the picture to start looking for another job.

Did you end up going to the dentist? I hate days like that. I hope you don't have psoriasis - are you going to have that checked out?

Yesterday was a busy day. DH and I went out to lunch, which was nice. I used the time to try to get him to think about work. I am running out of patience with the situation. He only wants to do something that has a purpose, allows him to stay home mostly, and makes money. That sounds like an impossible combination. He recently got training on how to repair pistols, but doesn't want to make business cards or do anything about it.. We've heard how you can make money writing a blog, and DH has some great ideas on what to blog about, but he doesn't want to pursue that. Sometimes I wish he'd just get a job delivering pizzas so I could hire a sitter to help me on the days I'm home. We don't need the money - I got a huge raise this year. But as a man, he wants to be a provider, and he's not wired to be a SAHD. He's a great dad, don't get me wrong. He just doesn't feel fulfilled. Sorry, that got long.

Then after we got home from lunch, DH and his sister went to hang out for a few hours. While they were gone, I got some urgent emails trying to schedule a work call, so I picked a time that I knew DH would be home to watch the kids (7 pm). Wouldn't you know it, when I went to take my work call, DH got a call at the same time, so while I was on the phone, Leah was screaming and Andrew was doing who knows what. I ended up cutting my call short because I had no idea what was going on with my kids. So it ended up being an exhausting day.

Today I have a bunch of meetings at work, then when I get home, DH is going somewhere. So another tiring day ahead. Thursday, Andrew is going to MIL's house for the morning, so that will be somewhat easier for DH and me (only Leah to deal with), though I have to come in for a work meeting. Ugh. Tired of being tired.
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 7:23am

Thanks for the payers with JJ's speech.  I'm usually fine with waiting on God's timing for when he will start speaking.  It just really gets to me when other people tell me he doesn't need therapy, he will start on his own, and that I am rushing him.  Or when other parents give me "the look" in public during one of his melt downs.  I am usually good at ignoring them, but some days that is the last thing I need.

I used to love working in the nursery on Wednesday nights.  When I became pregnant with JJ, I stopped teaching the class.  It was just to much.  Now they have no nursery class on that night.  So I can't take my kids on Wednesday night.  I could start taking them this fall when JJ is in the next age group, but I will be babysitting.  The parents said I can take them too, but I don't know if I want to drag 4 kids to and from church.

I am the same way.  The kids are not allowed outside to play on the hot and humid days.  They don't understand, and they get upset sometimes, but I try to make the inside fun.  We have finger paints and other crafts.  I'll also let them watch movies and have popcorn.

Oh,sorry I didn't get online  yesterday to see this.  I hope your meeting with that employee went ok!  

We went to a water amusement park yesterday.  It was a fun day, but everybody is exhausted today.  Everybody else is still sleeping.  I had to get up because the speech therapist never called to tell me when JJ's has a session.  He usually has one Tuesday mornings,s o I wanted to get up and clean, (house is wrecked from yesterday) just in case she called and asked if she could come over this morning.  I really wish she would get more organized about the appts.  :smileysad:

I am supposed to go to the dentist today.  I just don't know if I am up to it.  My scalp is in bad shape.  I think I have psoriasis or something.  Sorry if I already mentioned that, I can't remember.  I have a sting or bug bite on the lower lid of my eye that is all swollen, sore, and looks horrible.  Plus I have af here kicking my booty and leaving me exhausted.  I may call and cancel and see how soon they could get Julia and I in.  I just don't know yet. 


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Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:07am
Wow, I can't believe your grandmother did that!!! That's crazy! Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for all the drama your family is going through - I will continue praying!

I know what you mean about wishing you could communicate with your little boy. I went through that with Andrew, and he started talking at 2.5, so I'm sure its even worse with JJ being 3. I'll keep praying for that too.

Singning practice last week worked out well - I nursed Leah before I had to leave, and DH fed her solids. DH agreed it would be better if she didn't go with me, and practice went so much better when I didn't have to keep her happy. I found out that I'll probably be singing more frequently coming up, because some of the people that sing on alternating weeks have been picking up more work hours. I also decided to volunteer to help in the nursery on Weds nights, but only if it would work around my singing schedule, because I am not willing to drive out to church 3 times per week with increasing gas prices! We'll see how that works out.

It was pretty hot and humid this weekend. DH mowed the lawn, but he waited as late as possible on Saturday (6:45 pm). Poor Andrew - I'll only let him be outside for an hour at a time when its like this. I have to lure him inside with promises of Veggie Tales or something similar!

If you get this message today, I could use your prayers. Have I mentioned the employee that I will likely fire? We're meeting today and I'm basically going to have to tell him "ship up or shape out". I don't have the words yet.
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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 8:12am

Oh I am so frustrated with my grandmother!  She is a very strange lady, and I don't want to go into the entire crazy situation that has been going on between her, her one dd, and my mom and uncle.  But my aunt and cousin secretly stole almost all her money, but she still wants to be stuck up their rear end.  (No nicer way of putting it.)  I told you that just so you understand the next part.  She seriously pretended to have another stroke, and that she was completely blind, so that my aunt would stay right with her.  She has been busted pretending to be blind.  She "can't see' when somebody comes to visit, or when she wants somebody to FEED HER, but she was able to see the athletes while watching the Olympics on tv.  We all thought she was having more strokes, thought we were going to be losing her, and she is faking.  I am so frustrated, especially with what is also going on with dh's grandma. 

I don't get too frustrated when JJ doesn't cooperate with the ST.  At least he sits there and doesn't scream and have a fit.  I just so badly want to be able to talk to my little boy.  I'm usually ok, but sometimes I get so upset that I can't.  I know it will all work out, and trusting in God that it will happen at the perfect time.

It must be fun to sing at church.  I wish I could volunteer more at church, but it just isn't possible right now.  Dh's work schedule is so unpredictable with the over time, and if I had JJ with me, I wouldn't be able to do anything besides chase him.  Hopefully when my kids get older.

It is supposed to be hot and humid here as well.  I want to sneak out before it gets too hot and mow my backyard.  The front and sides are ok, but the back is really long.  During the drought, it got plenty of water from the kiddie pool, sprinklers, and slip and slides.  So it is very long, and now attracting bees.  I got stung yesterday, so this is a high priority for me today.

Have a good day today!


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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 6:29am
Sorry for my delay. I'm so busy I feel like my head is spinning.

I read your post a couple days ago but couldn't respond. I've been praying for your grandmas and for wisdom for you on how to deal with the two situations. That's all so hard.

We tried to go to a park on Saturday, and online it said it was open "daily", but when we got there, it was closed. So I sent them an email telling them to fix their website. They were very apologetic and offered me free tickets to a play! We can't go to the play, but good to know the place should be open when we can go!

I hope JJ's therapy went well. Try not to get too frustrated - even little gradual progress is good.

Tonight I have singing practice at church. Its been a whlie since I've had singing practice - I think the last time was when Obama was in town and I ended up missing most of the practice because I was stuck because the whole town shut down. Now, Leah is much more mobile, so I'm not sure how she'll do. I hate leaving her with DH any more than I have to (he deserves breaks), and I hate having to pump... maybe I'll see how she does this time.

Today is suppoesd to be hot again :smileysad: maybe we'll let Andrew use his kiddie pool - hopefully he won't throw a fit when pool time is over.

Have a good day!
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Tue, 07-31-2012 - 7:24am

JJ doesn't mind sharing me with babies.  I think the fact that I babysit, and Ariana is only 4 months older then him.  So I used to hold them at the same time a lot.  He just didn't like that he couldn't get to me.  The rooms are separated by a half wall with a half door.  He knew I was there, but he couldn't see me.

My grandma may need to go to a nursing home also.  Especially if she doesn't cooperate with the physical therapy.  I have to call my mom today and see how it is going.  I feel so torn.  I want to go down to visit with my grandmother, but at the same time I want to stay near dh and his grandmother.  Dhs' grandma is in worse condition, and I am not close to my grandmother.  I am actually closer to dh's then my own.  Sad, but very true. Mine didn't treat me very well, and his treated me like one of her own.  She treated her own extremely well.

I love our trips to the parks.  There are three all within 15 minutes of me.  The one we went to yesterday is even closer then that.  The second has a splash pad with the kids love to use.  The third we tried once, but it is kind of crummy.  We won't be back to that one at all.

I hope the man is able to find another job.  This is obviously not the one he is meant to have.  So hopefully God leads him to the correct one.

Julia and I worked with JJ last night identifying pictures from a book.  He did really well.  So I hope he carries that over to his speech therapy today.  I'm hoping if we celebrate his successes the same as we did last night, maybe he'll want to cooperate.  After that, I am hoping to make a quick run to the library.  The kids need new books, and I have 3 on hold.

I hope you have a great day today! 

 


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Mon, 07-30-2012 - 2:44pm
Andrew didn't like it when I cared for babies in the nursery at church either. I was worried that didn't bode well for when Leah was born... and I was right. He got over it eventually.

I'm not sure how grandma will feel about the nursing home. Hopefully she'll realize its for medical reasons, because she and grandpa resisted assisted living (grandpa passed away right before Christmas)l.

I looked at my laptop and it doesn't seem to have a built in camera. At least it isn't listed under devices where it should be. I don't think lugging something like that on travel is a good idea either - I'm afraid I'd lose or break it. I don't have a smart phone either.

Today seems like a nice day to go to the park (well, here in OH). Too bad DH was probably stuck at home with the kids. Maybe we'll head out this evening.

Oh, I hate it when kids won't repeat things to other than that they can do for you! How frustrating for you!

Today I had a conversation with an HR lady about the guy I have to probably fire. Yuck - it makes me sad. However, I learned that another guy that was laid off (lack of funding) was able to find another job, so maybe there's hope for my guy.
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