I feel miserable and really need prayers

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I feel miserable and really need prayers
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 11:25pm
I am so angry, frustrated and exasperated.
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 11:47pm
Big, big hugs!

Take deep breaths and pray. Tell God your frustrations. You're not in this alone. You have us, but more importantly you have Him. I don't know what He has planned, but it's gonna be good!

Erik does need to step up, but he'll be out of the house faster if you do help him find his next job. ;)

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 10:06am

(((((((hugs))))))))) I stand by what I said at FB, start living now as if you only had unemployment as income. I'll be praying for all of this.

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 10:37am
I'm so sorry that you're going through this :( I am with Becca on the crying out to God because He understands your frustration, but also don't feel bad about crying with friends too. I wouldn't have survived some of our trials this past year and a half without long talks with good friends (even by phone) and God really will meet you even when you think it's too overwhelming. And I pray that God gives your hubby a nudge in the right direction on his search and his attitude (or a swift kick.....) I know that I went through this with my dh--it took him a few days to start searching (which made me feel on edge) and then once he had no positive results from the searching, it got even more impossible. I think one thing you need to point out to him is that he's going to be competing for available jobs with others who were let go at the same time, so it's better to start immediately instead of waiting until the 4 weeks pay is finished.

I will pray for your frustration level and for open and productive communication for you and Erik as well as a job that is a great fit for your family (((((hugs)))))


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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 1:12pm

Yikes Jennifer.


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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 7:03pm
My initial response is to want to ring his neck for you............. but that probably won't help LOL. So I'm going to pray that you or he finds the perfect job to get all applied for so he can go back to work & you can have your space back. If God decides to ring his neck.... bonus ;)
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 9:55pm
Thanks, Becca. I did tell God my frustrations, and He may not have liked my tone of voice LOL.

It was like pulling teeth, but Erik did finish his cover letter and apply for two jobs. I tried to be more helpful and less argumentative, and we got along a little better today.
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 10:00pm
Thanks, Heather. We actually have surprisingly few luxuries, but it seems like we just have a lot of regular payments that add up. Car, student loans, credit card, life insurance, etc. We put our cell phones on a pre-pay plan a couple years ago, so we pay $100 a year for two phones, and they were already paid for a few months ago, so we're good there. We should get rid of cable, but internet has almost become a utility, and it's difficult to look for a job without it. Like you said, he could drive to some hot spot, but there are tempting things to buy, plus you waste gas getting there. Anyway, I had a discount grocery shopping trip yesterday, and that man is going to have to learn to eat leftovers!
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 10:18pm
Lindy, I'm sure you understand my feelings like few people really can. I am so scared of the unknown - how long will this last? will we have to move?, etc. It's so hard to trust that everything will be ok, even though everything has always been ok in the past. I told Erik that although I know intellectually that in the long run we'll be ok, it's the day to day struggles in between now and then that worry me.

Like I told Becca, it was like pulling teeth, but he did get the cover letter done and applied for two jobs. I felt better that at least SOMETHING got done, even though there's still a long way to go.

I should explain for the non Facebookers that adding to our stress is the fact that we've got woodpeckers making huge holes in our siding. They came earlier this year and did quite a bit of damage, but they left when it got warm. Now that it's cooling off again, they're back and doing more damage. They aren't just making little holes to get to bugs, they're making holes large enough for them to nest in. They come every day at dawn, and off and on throughout the day. It is exasperating. We've tried several deterrents and nothing has worked. We've tried a fake owl, fake snake, we've hung shiny streamers that wave in the breeze, we've sealed up the existing holes, and maybe a couple other things that I can't remember. They are just relentless. It's against the law to shoot them since they're "protected species", but it seems unfair to just stand by while they inflict significant damage on our property. We were on the verge of taking out a loan to get vinyl siding, but of course now that's off the table. Erik finally decided that he wanted to shoot them, but I felt bad encouraging him to break the law. I told him to do whatever, though, because he wasn't really interested in any of my ideas, and truthfully we've already tried so many things with no success. Anyway, so that's where the whole shooting the birds thing comes in.

Erik is more confident than I think he should be. He thinks that since he's got nuclear industry experience it should be pretty easy to find something. I don't want to dampen his spirits, but I think it'll be more difficult than he thinks. Unemployment is just high everywhere, and like you said, he's competing with all the other engineers that got laid off with nuclear experience. I fear we're in for months and months of unemployment.
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 10:23pm
I guess you can hold off on the neck ringing for now (but stand by LOL). He got a couple of things accomplished, so I feel better that at least SOMETHING got done. He actually has a lot more faith than I do that "everything will be ok", so I'm trying to let a little bit of that rub off on me. But of course he probably has an easier time believing that because I'm in charge of our finances, and all he knows is that everything gets paid on time and our lights are still on. Grrr...
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 11:04pm
Yay!

Sometimes it's really hard not to argue, but recently I've been practicing a figurative biting of the tongue strategy so that we won't start something we'll regret. I'm not sure exactly why those we love are the easiest to pick fights with...

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