ready to give up!

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Registered: 09-26-2006
ready to give up!
Sat, 08-04-2007 - 4:48pm

on breastfeeding, that is!

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Registered: 08-03-2007
In reply to: ebzwife
Sat, 08-04-2007 - 6:07pm
whitney how frustrating!!! I almost quit when josh started doing that...i figured out it was the heat. is he getting hot when he is bfing?? i finally put a fan on his while he was feeding and it helped sooooooooo much....he would stay latched on and feed like he was supposed might want to try thhat
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Registered: 05-18-2006
In reply to: ebzwife
Sat, 08-04-2007 - 10:43pm

Hi, I'm a lurker here but I just wanted to suggest that you look for tips on or the breastfeeding/lactation consultant board for suggestions/support. Breastfeeding was really hard at first, but I grew to love it and we're still doing it at almost 18 months now. Matthew did a lot of popping on and off too at one point. It could be a lot of different issues. The breastfeeding board is really great for helping figure out what works.

I hope it works out for you.

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In reply to: ebzwife
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:25am
Don't give up!!!
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Registered: 01-15-2007
In reply to: ebzwife
Sun, 08-05-2007 - 12:59pm

Is it possible that you have oddly-shaped nipples? I had this problem with one breast and Tommy would do what your little guy is doing. My lactation consultant (from the hospital) suggested nipple shields, sort of as 'training wheels' for good latch.

Here's a link:

If you really want to breastfeed, don't let this problem discourage you. I gave up too soon with my son and really regret it now.


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In reply to: ebzwife
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 9:50pm

Could there be something in your diet that is bothering him? Or could he have reflux and something in your diet is making it worse? Do you know if your supply is good enough? There are so many things to BFing that you might have to play a game of Trial and Error with. Even if you pump and then give it to him in a bottle, see if that fills him up more and if he still cries and fusses, you might want to look at your diet. I hope this helps! :)


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Registered: 07-20-2006
In reply to: ebzwife
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 8:36am

Hi Whitney-

I was flagged by someone to look at your post(sorry I didn't see it until now). ((HUGS)) to you, mama! Those first few weeks can be so tough. A few things came to mind.

First, is there an LC that you can contact? They can be invaluable in helping you out.

Additionally, oversupply jumped into my mind:

He won't eat anymore after that!


Mama to two girls; birth choice and breastf

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Registered: 10-09-2003
In reply to: ebzwife
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 1:21pm


I totally understand. I was SO ready to give up, too. Around 1 month I had hit rock bottom--nipples excruciatingly painful, baby had foamy green poo from oversupply, baby coming unlatched over and over again, being stuck in the chair all DAY long (baby wanted to eat like every 45 min!) and up all night long.

It was SOOOOOOO hard.

Here is what I wrote to my sister when I had hit the bottom, and what my older sister (who BFed for almost 2 years) emailed me:

susan wrote:

My boob still hurts. *sigh* I can SO understand why people give it up so fast... Too bad I'm too stubborn to give it up... Ian seems to really be "mad" at my left side all the time and it hurts so bad. I'm seriously considering just pumping that side all the time for a few days and try to let it "heal" and give Ian bottles every other time... since I'm ahead on bottles now and don't see why I would need a HUGE stock in the freezer at least until August...I don't know. Anywho... the babe calls again...

Talk to you soon!


Emily wrote:

You should try calling a lactation consultant.....that's what they are there for!!! Just tell them what is going on and maybe they can help you some how before you go to pumping that side all the time.... pumping is never as efficient as really nursing, and it might make it tougher to keep your milk supply on that side.....and of course there is that little thing they say about not introducing a bottle until they are .....weeks old or whatever.... I sort of vaguely remember having one side that hurt a WHOLE lot worse than the other, and I think it was my left side too, although for the first month, it was not very comfortable on EITHER side!!! Overall, hang in there. I almost gave up a couple of different times, because I was tired of being in pain all the time, and then of course the joys of waking up with your shirt and the whole bed soaked, etc.....that formula up in the closet was just very tempting for me...... but, it DOES get better.... I promise!!!

love you,


Bottom line, Whitney, I don't know any BFers who didn't feel like giving up at the beginning!! It really DOES get better, or else there wouldn't be so many BFing mothers! I strongly encourage you to see an LC and get some real, in-person, hands-on help! It will do WONDERS for both your physical discomforts and your self-esteem! My LC was my biggest cheerleader and she cared SO much about us, she wiped my tears away and always knew what to say to make me smile.

In addition, feel free to email me personally if you need another cheerleader, I will gladly support you through it all!

Much love (((hugs)))

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Registered: 02-01-2007
In reply to: ebzwife
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 4:31pm

I agree with everyone else. I had to use the shields with Tyler. I ended up getting to frustrated, one dried up and I gave up. I have never forgiven myself for giving up. HAng in there, don't give up. I will be praying for you.

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