Bonuses to being an older mom

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Bonuses to being an older mom
Tue, 06-13-2006 - 8:31am

1) Having confidence in yourself because you've actually lived a little. (doesn't spare you from toddler induced panic attacks, but I think you recover faster) :)

2) People having no idea how old you really are. My younger sister has a daughter turning 19 this summer, and she grumped because I look younger than she. She said you are old enough to have a 19 yo! I said yes, but I don't have one to prove it!! :)
My oldest is 5 and I am due with #2 Nov 4. And I'm 39.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Tue, 06-13-2006 - 10:31am

1) Being financially better off.

2) Being more mature.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:21pm

This is a hard one to articulate, but I'll try...

1) Being more at home in my body and better able to handle that aspect of having kids. Somehow, after I had my son, it became much easier to accept that I'm a mama and am getting older, so I don't have to have a little girlish body anymore. And I don't want to! I think that might have been harder if I'd been in my 20's when I had my first.

2) I had already developed a more mature relationship with my own parents by the time my little ones came along. For me, anyway, my relationship with them in my early 20's was a kind of slow realization that they're just people too, and that they were the best parents they knew how to be. I'm glad I didn't have a lot of kinks to work out in my relationships with them at the same time I was learning how to be a parent myself.

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:36pm

  • Not sweating the small stuff

  • Not caring so much what other people think

  • Not being so hard on myself

  • Knowing I'm having kids with the right person

  • Knowing myself better so I can be a better role model for my daughter(s)

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Tue, 06-13-2006 - 7:07pm
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Registered: 12-14-2005
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 5:22am

My DH is a great husband and a great dad (I waited until I was older to get married, too).

I'm less self centered...I spent my 20's (and into my 30's) being single, silly, adventurous and somewhat irresponsible, now I feel ready to devote my energy to my family without feeling like I'm "missing out" on anything.

I have more patience now (not that I'm the most patient person in the world, but at least I've improved in the last 10 years or so!).

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 1:25pm

There are probably some repeats in here, but for me the bonus of being an older mom are:

1. Being able to afford being a SAHM (so far anyway!)
2. Much more patient
3. I also married late & we waited awhile before having kids ... we were more then ready for these little ones!
4. Don't feel like I am missing a darn thing
5. They keep me moving! ;-)
6. I take better care of myself because I want to be here as long as possible for them.

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Registered: 10-24-2005
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 5:00pm

1) Feeling like I have really been there done that with alot of things. Staying home and doing nothing on a Saturday night is no big deal becuase we did all that when we got married. I feel like I have done everything I wanted and missed out on nothing. It Also helps that we were married for a few years before we had kids.
2) I feel much more finacially stable now then I did when I was in my 20's.