How old is too old to TTC?

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Registered: 04-20-2012
How old is too old to TTC?
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Fri, 01-25-2013 - 2:11pm

My friend met her soul mate pretty late in life and they were married when she was 39 and he was 42. Now after 2 years of marriage, they have decided they want to have a baby. I really want to be supportive of her but I'm just so worried. TTC at age 41 seems so risky for both the baby and her. And doesn't the father's age a factor as well? He's 44 now. I thought I might get some good opinions from the ladies here since you are "over 35 with young kids" and I assume that means you also conceived "later in life". Wink

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Registered: 01-24-2012
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 1:13pm

I understand your concerns but as her friend, I'm hopeful you are keeping them to yourself. Yes there are risks but there are always risks,no matter what the age. I'm sure her doctor will run all the appropriate tests and keep a good eye on her.

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Registered: 10-22-2004
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 10:06am

I apologize for not responding earlier, I hope they have finally gotten the boards fixed.

I agree with Jill, it is fine to worry, but you need to keep those worries to yourself.  I imagine your friend has some of the same worries, but the thought of a child outweighs those worries.  I don't think there is much you can do other than send P&PT.  Hopefully, your friend has made her OB/GYN aware of her intentions to get pg. Then the dr can assess the risk and let your friend know exactly what she is in for.

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Registered: 04-20-2012
Fri, 03-15-2013 - 12:18pm

Okay, I should know this but what is P&PT? All I can think of is physical therapy and that doesn't quite fix the context, LOL.

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Registered: 08-29-2004
Sat, 03-23-2013 - 3:53pm

I wouldn't worry about her.  There are lot of people who conceived a child that late in life.  My grandmother had my mother after age 40, I had my youngest at 40 with no complications and  have a friend who had a baby recently at the age of 42 - other than having to have a C-section, there were no other problems for her.   and I could go on....there are risks to having a baby after 40, but I think sometimes the risks can seem worse than they really are.  I think the hardest part after 40 is conceiving in the first place - fertilty declines with age - but if your friend can conceive, there is no reason to think she can't have a healthy, happy pregnancy and baby at this point in her life.   I've had three children myself - all boys - the oldest is turning 17 today and the youngest is 3 and the last pregnancy and delivery was the easiest. 

-Anne

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Registered: 08-29-2004
Sat, 03-23-2013 - 3:54pm

prayers and positive thoughts

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Registered: 04-12-2013
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 11:37am

Saw this thread and was curious how your friend was doing? Is she pg yet? I'm interested since my BFF is 40 and has been ttc for six months with no luck yet. She's starting to worry. :(

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Mon, 04-29-2013 - 7:34pm

I agree with the others - she is just as likely concerned like you, so be supportive and encouraging. She'll handle the risks along with her doctor. 

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