Catholic school for agnostic's children?

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Catholic school for agnostic's children?
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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 12:12am

Hello, I am an agnostic mom with a Catholic school question, and I wonder if anyone can offer experiences, ideas, thoughts.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 11:02am
Are you sure the classes are Catholic religious education classes only? So many non-Cathoics go to Catholic schools that a lot of them have ethics classes for the non-Catholics. Assuming that they are just regular CCD classes, how do you feel about that? Do you want them to be agnostics too? Have you shared your lack of beliefs with your kids? If you want them to believe as you do, you can enforce your ideas at home if you choose to send them there. It really depends on how comfortable you are with what they will be learning in CCD. I think you just have to weigh all the pros/cons and see what is most important to you. Does your child's father have any thoughts on this? I think this is a question that only you can answer. Good luck with your decision.
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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 11:50am
I agree with Guili. DS goes to Catholic school (we are Catholic, but I struggle with bouts of agnosticism at times), and religion is part of their weekly curriculum. Questions on faith worksheets are worded in the same way that you would word facts. For example (I just retrieved one of his worksheets from last week), here is some of the wording on his school work:

Q: What special gift did God give Adam and Eve?
A: God gave them the gift of grace.

Q: What is grace?
A: Grace is God's life in us.

Q: After they sinned, did Adam and Eve still have God's life in their souls?
A: No

None of it is worded in a way that lets the kids believe that this is what Catholics believe and others may not. It reads as fact. I think if you send your children to a Catholic school, you will need to make sure you talk to them about subjects you may disagree with. There are non-Catholic children who attend this school. I would hope that the parents who disagree with the subject of religion are addressing it with their kids at home.

I would also look into how much fundraising is required in the Catholic school. If we fall short in our fundraising, then we have to pay the difference at the end of the year. I would find out from both schools what would be the total amount you could possibly have to pay.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 12:59pm

Thanks.

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Wed, 10-12-2011 - 11:13am
My opinion is heavily colored by my upbringing. I was raised Catholic and have very negative feelings about the catholic church. Personally, I don't think I could send my kids to a catholic school because I have so much baggage. I'm an atheist now. The catholic church helped me to become one. I actually started doubting my faith during my preparation for Confirmation. We were supposed to keep a diary and contemplate our faith. That's when I started having doubts. They only grew from there. Of course I was still confirmed b/c at 15 there was no way I was brave enough to tell my mother how I felt. She would've killed me.
I really disagree with much of what the church teaches however, I do believe they helped me to be the moral person I am today. Only now, I am moral because I believe it is right, not out of fear of God's punishment.
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Thu, 10-27-2011 - 10:12pm

Finding the right school for your child is such a hard thing!

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