Religion as a Club

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Religion as a Club
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Mon, 02-20-2012 - 10:20am

Since I have yet to discuss religion with my 5 year old, I've been trying to figure out ways to explain the whole concept to her.

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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 12:00pm

"Club" is exactly the word my final Priest used to describe the Catholic religion. I was planning my wedding in the church where I had been a member for about 10 years but he didnt want to perform the ceremony because, at the time, my fiance and I had decided against children...oh, and we were living together. (shocking!) He said being a Catholic was like being in a club. If you can't follow the rules of the club you can't be a member...that was the begining of the end of my association with religion, the rest is history.

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Wed, 02-22-2012 - 8:13pm
Whoops. Sorry I said son and you actually have a daughter.
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Wed, 02-22-2012 - 8:12pm
I am Jewish, but I don't believe in God (i know that doesn't make sense) so I feel like I kind of half belong here. I understand where you are coming from with the "club" analogy, but I think you may want to chose a different word. If your 5 year old goes around telling other 5 year olds that their religions are clubs somebody is bound to be offended. Based on the "war on Christmas" thread I know you have a clear idea what you are dealing with. If people get offended that the check out clerk says "happy holidays" instead of "merry Christmas" can you imagine how angry they will get with your child if he calls their religion a club. You said your son is very smart, so just tell it like it is - everyone has different beliefs and I disagree with some of their beliefs - and then explain why. For instance I tell my kids that I don't believe in God because there are so many people suffering in the world and I can't believe that if there were a god he/she would let that happen. Besides the whole concept of god just seems odd to me and my gut instinct is to believe that there is a scientific explanation for everything. I guess I am saying to treat your child like an adult when you have this discussion and don't use simplistic analogies, instead just be honest about your views and let your kid form their own analogies or opinions. Hope you don't mind me dropping in. Robin