In Your Face or Live and Let Live?

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In Your Face or Live and Let Live?
Mon, 12-20-2010 - 9:44pm

I'm a fan of the blog the Friendly Atheist.

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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 12:14pm
I get very irritated with "in your face" atheists. I am particularly annoyed with a local group fighting to get this cross off of local hilltop. Yes, it's public land but it's also a war memorial and frankly, so what. The cross doesn't mean anything to me. I don't have to go there. I think it's giving WAY too much power to a couple sticks lol. Plus, there are BIGGER battles like a group of substitute teachers in our county who use their short stays in the classroom to teach their rather extreme platform. They get away with it because kids aren't reporting it and they aren't around enough to raise teacher suspicion. Even religious people tend to not want that!

We're pretty low-key. I grew up an atheist. I know that makes a difference. I certainly will "come out" when someone is being stupid without knowing who they are talking to. I'll just interupt with a "before you continue, I think you should know that we are an atheist family." I get the wide eyes and that usually stops whatever rant they were about to go on. We don't hide it, but we don't advertise. I mean, I have tons of Jewish friends and honestly, I had no idea because they tend not to advertise until December when they may say "oh, we're jewish, we don't celebrate Christmas." I can always peg someone from one of the huge juggernaut touchy/feely churches because they announce themselves or outright ask you within 5 minutes of conversation. All I have to say is "foothills or shadow mountain" and again wide eyes lol. I don't like when THESE peole do this to me, why would I do it to others?

Plus, those "out there" atheists are SUCH the minority. Most of us just find religion irrelevant and happy to plug away at our happy little lives without a worry as to who agrees with us and who doesn't.
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Tue, 12-21-2010 - 9:08pm

I am DEFINITELY not in-your-face about much.

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 11:09am

I live in Louisville, KY. While this city is pretty liberal it IS in know...the state that boasts the Creation Museum and soon the Ark Experience Theme Park. (sighs heavily) So, most fellow Louisvillians acknowledge that Atheists exist but most do beleive that we have horns and are evil incarnate, too. So that being said, I am definitely a "live and let live" kind of Atheist.

I dont intend to be defined by my lack of belief and find it annoying when Christians wish to be defined by THEIR belief. In addition, many times when I have attempted to guide someone's one sided, on-the-offense view point away from being so closed, it turned into a melee against me for not drinking the Koolaid with them.

My husband just recently admitted to himself his Atheism and he fights the urge to be "in your face" about it. I tell him he is no different than a born-again who is all bible thumpin' when he does that. We recently both came to the conclusion, though, that we did not "decide" to be Atheist. We decided to quit denying that we dont believe. Neither of us have been believers for a very long time we just didnt admit that to ourselves...or anyone else for that matter. So with the relief I felt at finally admitting that, I understand his a degree.

I tend to borrrow from Bhuddist and Dao philosophies and peacefully continue my path. If you block my path for some reason, I would prefer to bow to your being and step around you so I might continue on.

Happy Holidays to all!

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 1:15pm

I admit that when religious fundamentalists (of any faith) assume universality of their beliefs, and act accordingly in terms of expecting their sectarian views to be presented in public schools or relied upon as the basis for governmental policy, it gets my goat.<A href="http://s218.photobucket

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Wed, 12-22-2010 - 11:31pm

I'm quiet. What was probably the first thing that made me step away from religion & look at it square on was the way different religions treated each other. I remember the Catholic jokes we'd get in our primary class & spent my early years thinking they were an odd group of people.

"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Sat, 12-25-2010 - 2:05am

You said it for me, Gwen.