1st Holy Communion question

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1st Holy Communion question
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 1:46pm

When I grew up, it was a very Catholic area and it was totally normal/expected for me and everyone I knew to (a) get those formal Communion portraits taken, and (b) have a big Communion party.

DD is getting her 1st HC in the spring. We are not in a heavily Catholic area and don't really have close Catholic friends (and live between parishes so, while our kids go to the one we "belong" to

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 12-07-2009 - 2:12pm

Sounds good to me!

It is an important event, so I think it is important to mark it with a celebration, but a dinner of her choosing at home and a special dessert can do that.

I do a party and invite grandparents, aunts and uncles, but several of my siblings don't. I also do a portrait, but I don't know of any of my kids' friends who had one done, and of my 11 siblings, only one other sister had portraits of her kids. Our church used to offer them, but didn't get enough takers to make it worthwhile. So what you're suggesting doesn't sound unusual at all to me.


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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 2:21pm

For both my kids we just had a cake and had the grandparents (and maybe an aunt or uncle or two) over afterwards.


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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 11:49am

I too remember all the hoopla of my own FHC - formal pictures to big,family party with store bought cake afterwards to even getting the Monday after that special day off at school for all us second graders (the catholic school),that was cool.



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Registered: 05-26-2005
Wed, 12-09-2009 - 12:30am

No formal portraits for either of our boys at First Communion. They weren't offered at the church and we didn't have them done. We just had a simple get together at our house afterward with grandparents, their godparents

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Wed, 12-09-2009 - 9:13pm
CJ has his FHC this year as well.
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 2:10pm
Being a converted Catholic, I don't really have any advice. I've looked through the photo albums at MIL's house, and none of their three boys had special portraits taken. They all had candid shots to mark the occasion. Unless they offer formal photos at school, I doubt we'll go out of our way to have any taken. I'm really bad about handing out normal class photos as it is. :/

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Sat, 12-12-2009 - 2:32pm

Just find a way to celebrate it in a way that makes sense for your family. With my oldest, we invited just my side of the family and DH's parents (his family are all atheist/agnostic, but at least his parents were raised Catholic) to a small afternoon party at our house. With my second, we let her invite her best friend to come to our at-home party wearing *her* first communion dress, and we invited a few close Catholic friends. And with my third, we invited just the same people as with my oldest, plus his godparents.

I did have portraits taken, not at the church, but in advance for all three kids. I like having them in our home as one of the reminders that we are a Catholic family.

BTW our area is about 80% Catholic and some people spend thousands of dollars renting reception halls, limos, DJs, etc. It's a nonsensical way of celebrating a child's ability to receive the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist.


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Sat, 12-12-2009 - 7:49pm
I think portraits are usually done before, during & after the church ceremony.
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Wed, 12-16-2009 - 8:27pm
I don't think any of my kids had formal FHC pics.... and we never had a party (for many of the same reasons)... one church had a cake/punch reception, another (overseas) had a meal for the families.... but mostly we just have a nice family dinner out somewhere


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