? about children at Mass

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? about children at Mass
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:07am
Since I'm still just exploring the idea of returning to Church, I would prefer to att end Mass by myself for a while. I think it would allow me to pay attention and really learn from the experience. However, I've read that in order to recieve Grace, the children actually have to be there. Most of my IRL friends aren't Catholic and they're churches are have nurseries or Sunday school, ect and the children don't attend services until they reach a certain age. Do you bring your small (under age 5)children to Mass? How do you keep them occupied? Does having them there interfere with your worship? Does your church have a nursery? Thanks!
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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 7:35am
IMHO, if you can go by yourself - GO. The kids can follow later.

I missed a lot of Masses when my kids were younger than 5. They were not beautifully behaved, and while I could handle them one at a time, having 2 of them there together sometimes left me wanting to crawl out under the pews.

Even now sometimes, if DH and I are going to different Masses, we will go without the kids while they stay with the other one. Neither has made their 1st Communion yet, so that will change soon.

I'd say to take it one thing at a time! First, you. Then the kids.

Good luck!



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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 8:07am
Go by yourself while you're still exploring. There are other ways for your children to obtain grace. You bless them just by going and beginning this process. You bless them by sharing what you learn with them. You bless them through the ways your own life and parenting will change as you grow in your relationship with God.

DH and I take our 2 children to church (ds almost 4 and dd 2 1/2) and it is generally a lot of work to keep the younger one interested and well behaved. Almost always at least one of us spends 1/2 of mass in the hallway with her. Even when they are well behaved they are distracting. OTOH, I have taken my dd to weekday mass on our own while ds is in preschool and when it is just the 2 of us and fast paced mass we do pretty well. You might try this once a week if you can manage it and reserve Sundays for mommy for now.

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 8:09am
I do not. Since my dh does not come to Mass, it is impossible for me to bring all 4 of my kids, ages 8,6,3 and 2, with me. I bring my older two who are capable of sitting through the Mass. Even then I do not get to pay full attention to the Mass. The church does have a cry room, but it is typically so noisy in there that it's not worth it. Plus kids learn that it's ok to act out.

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:00pm
..My three children are under the age of 6 and our Church does have a Nursery. I try to limit the x I use it thou because I truly do want my children to leave church with a vision of what was taught and prayed on. My oldest, 6, actually has told me that she enjoys going to church to PRAY, not Play! That makes me proud to hear! I am torn thou because I do FEEL that Catholic Mass is a long hour for lil people to sit still. A Nursery does help. If there isn't a Nursery with your Church, could you attend while DH stays home? Just an Idea......

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 3:11pm
My husband insists that we attend church as a family unless one of us is sick or he has a late night/early morning call (he's a volunteer firefighter). We've taken our son with us since he was two weeks old. We're very lucky that he's very well-behaved for a 10 month old. While I was in RCIA classes, my husband would take care of him so I could pay closer attention, though.
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Thu, 09-25-2003 - 12:22am
I leave both my children (3 and 9 mos) in the nursery while I attend Mass. My 3 year old could best be described as a "high energy" child and keeping up with her while trying to pay attention to what is going on was too much. I think it is too much to expect her to sit quietly through Mass. So I started taking her to the nursery and she loves it. Every Sunday she gets excited about "going to play with friends". When she turns 4 I will sign her up for the preschool religion class held at the same time as Mass. My 9 month old is a huge kid, and he is in that awkward stage where he is too big for the infant carrier now, but does not sit up well yet. So, honestly, I started putting him in the nursery because I cannot hold him in my arms for an hour, he is just too heavy. Also, unlike my daughter, who was in daycare until she was 2 years old, he is at home with Dh while I am at work, and I wanted him to get used to being left with someone other than Mom, Dad or Grandma.


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Tue, 09-30-2003 - 3:24pm
I do not find children a problem at Mass. A "cry room" or nursery is always the appropriate place to go. The liturgies or readings will not be attended to, if at all a problem. I am more interested in finding out who formally Constitutes the daily mass readings although I found today's (Sep. 30) appropriate. I'm wondering if it's Papal in which I won't be surprised. Thus I wouldn't find another Christian religion at all more appropriate. I wonder if the Catholic religion is a demeanor in some situations. It's just call to a more personal level.