Can my Priest require this?

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Can my Priest require this?
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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 10:55am

I think I know the answer, but I just wanted to check with others to be sure.

My priest has decided that the Confirmation Mass is REQUIRED for all cathecists this year.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 5:55pm
You have Sunday School there??

I say he can't do it. If he wants to make a big deal while the Bishop is there, do what our parish does, and host a dinner for all council leaders. It then counts as a "Thanks for your time and sharing your Stewardship" and "Meet the Bishop!!"
Marianne, mom to Margaret (01/02), Elizabeth (03/04) and Annabelle (07/07)
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Registered: 06-18-2004
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 9:17am

Yes, we have Sunday School.

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Registered: 07-26-1997
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 11:43pm

would he know if you were there or not.

 

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Registered: 12-31-2005
Mon, 02-14-2011 - 7:42pm
A priest can have any requirements like this that he wants for staff members, CCD teachers and people doing ministry. And sure it isn't "fair", but honestly there are ways around it. It is only 1 Mass out of the entire year and I think it would be a great thing for the kids to experience whether or not they are receiving their Confirmation. Confirmation is a wonderful sacrament for these kids to be receiving and to have the younger kids attend would be a great exposure and teaching lesson for them.

I know afternoon and evening Masses aren't always convenient, I have 6 kids (13, 10, 5.5, 4, 2 and 3mo) and I get that, but it is honestly only one Mass out of the entire year and having them sit for longer than normal won't kill them (I know from personal experience) especially at the ages they are at now they are IMO old enough to sit for a couple hours in the middle of the afternoon to experience a beautiful sacrament being bestowed upon kids in the parish. It may really have a profound impact on them as they prepare for their own Confirmations in a few years. If it really is too much work, it wouldn't be horrible to either attend Mass twice on that day or to not go in the morning with your family.

I don't think fair has anything to do with it. Father can ask anything he wants and while it would be nice if he was understanding and allowed for exceptions, he doesn't have to and I'm sure he has reasons other than he wants to make a good impression for the bishop. Have you tried approaching him in an overly friendly and definitely non-confrontational way? Explained as nicely as you could the situation and seen what he said? Getting upset w/ him probably won't get you anywhere b/c he's probably used to people coming to him upset about all sorts of things from his homily, to the type of toilet paper in the bathrooms, to the music on Sundays at Mass, the flower choice for the alter, etc. They hear about every petty little thing that bothers people. And honestly, Father hears all the time about how people can't make it to Mass, CCD, this and that requirement for reception of the sacraments, but can make it to every soccer practice, etc. I'm not saying this is the case for you, but it is the case for many people.
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Thu, 03-24-2011 - 1:53pm
This question is old so I'm sure the situation has passed but I just wanted to chime in.
As a kid, I really enjoyed the Bishop's Mass. It was interesting to see how much more involved it is than a regular Sunday mass. Your kids might enjoy going.

 

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