Catholics are cheaters?

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Catholics are cheaters?
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Fri, 01-27-2012 - 12:33pm

I was listening to the radio yesterday morning, and they were talking about a study in the UK that claims Catholics cheat on their spouses more than any other religious group.

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Fri, 01-27-2012 - 12:42pm

I was cheated on really bad...we were engaged and a month before the wedding I found out he was having sex with escorts from craigslist and escort services and using my money i'd give him towards bills to pay for it.I won't get into the details,I'll just say it could have been an episode of jerry springer or Dr Phil.Anyways, he was catholic...mind you my bf now was raised catholic although he is not religious what so ever and doesn't even really have faith. There seems to be alot wrong with the catholic religion! My mother always told me the catholic children are the ones that get into trouble.She seemed to be right from what I've seen,heard and experienced.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 1:34am
Perhaps the Daily Mail has ties to C of E? ;-) But seriously, I think it's funny how the mention in a passing that Jews and Methodists are the most loyal but put Catholics and the C of E head to head.

I think people can find trends where they look for them. I know lots of sad stories about (mostly former) Catholics but I've also met some great Catholic families - former Catholics, too.

I'm sorry to hear what you went through, Pink!

- JM

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 1:35am
PS Make that stories about former AND current Catholics. ;-)

- JM

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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 11:22am
I'm kind of confused by that article anyway because it said this:

Research showed 21.5% of the 600,000 members on an extra-marital dating site were Catholic - a high figure since they make up only 10% of the UK population.

And then this:

"Church of England followers are less common – although 40% of English citizens list themselves as CofE, Anglicans only made up 33% of members surveyed by extra-marital dating site IllicitEncounters.com"

33% is higher than 21.5%, so doesn't that mean CofE members are more likely to cheat?

I don't know. This data seems weak, and I'm kind of surprised it has gotten so much attention.
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Tue, 02-21-2012 - 12:49pm

I dated this girl for about a year and a half, and we had a pretty rocky relationship, almost the whole time. But pretty much she cheated on me the whole relationship. Leave it to a catholic to cheat on me. Never found out about it until... well, I had to do some snooping, but it definitely paid off. Left that chick in a heartbeat. I think you have a good point here that catholics aren't the best people.

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Tue, 02-21-2012 - 2:50pm

I'm sorry your ex did that to you.

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Wed, 02-22-2012 - 4:44am
If I read the article correctly, it was self-reporting on a website designed for cheaters. I could go on that website and list my religion as Druid, doesn't mean I am. In a country that fell away from the Catholic church and has a national religion (ie Anglican or C of E), I don't think I'd report my real religion and it gives an extra way to hide who you really are (which is probably a good thing on a cheating website). And, FWIW, DH and I have been married almost 18 years, both cradle Catholics and neither of us have ever cheated. Of all the Catholics I know, I know of none who have cheated. DH is in the Army. I've *heard* that soldiers are infamous for cheating. In the 18+ years DH and I've been together, I've only personally known one soldier who's cheated.
Anyone can come up with any stastics they want--doesn't mean they apply across the board or are even very accurate, especially when it relies solely on self-reporting.
Kellie
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Wed, 02-22-2012 - 10:27am
That's a really good point about hiding your real religion (or any other personal information that might identify you) on a cheating website.

IME, the people who behave in un-Catholic ways really don't live their faith to begin with and just wear the label when it's convenient.
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 12:33am

My husband grew up Catholic - he jokes that his parents only had sex 5 times to have their 5 kids. Since his parents were "old school" Catholics, I think that their is some truth to that. He remembers love between his parents, but not intimacy. His father was active politically in his city and would go out on the weekends where there would be other women. He doesn't doubt that his father had female acquaintances or even that his mother knew about it. They were together until his dad passed a few years ago, and that's just the way that they did it.

I did not grow up Catholic, just the opposite. My father is a pastor, was divorced before he had me and my older sister was a "guest" at the wedding. We are obviously members of a more liberal church. My parents also found eternal love in one another, and remained together until death, but I remember them physically touching and kissing in front of us. My father still says today, remarried after my mother passed, that he would never in a million years dream of cheating.

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