Confirmation and the 8th grade

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Confirmation and the 8th grade
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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 3:12pm

First let me say that this is somewhat of a philisophical question.



My daughter is in the 8th grade at a Catholic school and will be making her Confirmation.

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 3:47pm

So now I found this in the catechism:



Although Confirmation is sometimes called the "sacrament of Christian maturity," we must not confuse adult faith with the adult age of natural growth, nor forget that the baptismal grace is a grace of free, unmerited election and does not need "ratification" to become effective. St. Thomas reminds us of this:







Age of body does not determine age of soul. Even in childhood man can attain spiritual maturity: as the book of Wisdom says: "For old age is not honored for length of time, or measured by number of years. "Many children, through the strength of the Holy Spirit they have received, have bravely fought for Christ even to the shedding of their blood.126


So I guess maturity is part of it.

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:41pm

Confirmation is the sealing of the gifts of the Holy Spirit received in baptism. It is not an adult commitment to the faith. Many people think that because it's usually received nowadays around the age of 13, and that formal *required* religious ed usually ends after confirmation, that it's some sort of adult initiation ritual. It isn't.

Once I realized that, there was no question in my mind that my kids would all be confirmed. EVERYONE has to recommit to their faith as an adult, not just once, but daily. It's a tenet of Catholic faith that our faith must be renewed every day, and that salvation doesn't come from a one-time sacrament or altar rail call. My kids (18, 15, and 10) were very interested to hear that they would have to make adult decisions about their faith as adults - but I also told them that as their parent, it's my job to raise them spiritually just as I raise them every other way, and therefore they will go to church until some future time when they're "off on their own." They seem to have accepted that.

Kelly

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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:23pm
Your dh's research is correct... it's not about the indiv confirming their faith.. but the Church confirming your faith... if that makes any sense.
There are also Roman Catholic churches that are moving Confirmation BACK since it's a sacrament of initiation (not completion) --- it goes with Baptism and Eucharist

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Fri, 09-24-2010 - 10:58pm
My not-quite-15 year old daughter has decided that she is NOT going to get confirmed. She wants to research other Christian denominations and see if they make sense to her. She does not agree with some of the more fundamentalist leanings of the Youth minister and says she does not want to confirm her faith until she is sure it is her faith. Her father (who is Methodist) and I are supporting her in this, although both of us want her to be confirmed. She has promised to talk to our pastor.
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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 9:41am

it would be hard to force a 15yo to show up and be confirmed.... glad she's going to talk to your pastor.. it's possible he doesn't know what is being taught at youth group

Renee



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Mom to: Madeleine, James, Abigail, Theresa & John



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Renee


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Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:33am
Our pastor couldn't believe it when he was told that she was refusing to go to confirmation classes. She and I did do the required book and bible work together, but she is adamant that although she is not ruling out confirmation in the future, she will not do it now. The pastor took me aside one day and said that the Church can't afford to lose kids like Bre. I agree, but she needs to find her way or the sacrament is meaningless.
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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 1:10pm
In our diocese. Confirmation happens in 11th grade. Our son went through with it. Because he knew it's what we wanted. Now he wants nothing to do with church. That is of any denomination. He does not want to at this time follow any organized religion. Says he believes in God. But says the bible contradicts itself. I think we kind of pushed our son into his confirmation. We felt because we were married in the church. It was our duties to raise all children we had in the faith. That after he completed Confirmation. We felt our duties were completed. What if you were to allow your dd to wait a while. Maybe in a couple years she might see things differently.

 

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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 10:36am
What confirmation is is a reaffirmation of your faith,

 


 


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Tue, 10-12-2010 - 5:02am

Confirmation is TOUGH- especially at this age.