Conversations during Mass

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Conversations during Mass
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Mon, 06-16-2003 - 12:12pm
The "what to do with your kids during Mass" poll reminded me of something that happened this weekend. Our church doesn't have a cry room. It used to, but the parish grew rapidly, and they expanded the main sanctuary into what had been the cry room. There are a few benches in the narthex, and that's where most parents with young children sit.

My husband and I usually sit there with our 4-mo.-old ds. I'd rather sit in the sanctuary and leave if he gets noisy, but by then there wouldn't be any seats in the narthex left. To make a long story somewhat short, there are other adults *without* children who sit or stand in the narthex, presumably so they can carry on conversations during Mass. They treat it like a social hall. After listening to two men talk throughout the homily Saturday night, I'd had my fill. I went to them and said, "Most of us who sit back here do so so our kids won't disturb other people, and we'd appreciate the same courtesy." They reacted pretty well and didn't make another peep.

Did I do the right thing? Should I have kept my mouth shut? Said something different? Should I bring it up with the pastor, since it's an ongoing problem?

For what it's worth, our church does have a nursery, but they don't take babies as young as our ds.

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Registered: 03-17-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 12:22pm
I have done the same thing and didn't take the matter beyond the offending talkers. As long as you express your feelings in a respectful manner and ask for their cooperation, you should have no regrets. The only thing that is regrettable is that it was adults, and not children, were the ones to be reminded.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-16-2003 - 10:00pm
What you did was just fine. I would also suggest that you follow up with the pastor just so he knows what is going on during Mass. Our pastor sometimes hangs around the Gathering space between the inside and outside doors while the other priest is saying Mass to "catch" people who leave around Communion time and do not remain for the whole Mass. I think that this is good.