Crazy Times, in exponential form

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Crazy Times, in exponential form
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Fri, 01-30-2009 - 11:54pm

I haven't been on here in ages. Sofia dragged me back briefly but things are just rather crazy in my neck of the woods. Back in December I had to go to SC and bring ds15 home. It has been a huge challenge getting him into school because of the differences between the district in SC and the one here in FL. We ended up doing virtual school so he's essentially home all the time, and now on the computer to do schoolwork. It makes for a situation of "overexposure to each other" which hasn't been pleasant at times. We're still looking to buy a house, but the right one hasn't presented itself. And now, this week, I've discovered that I'm pregnant with our fourth, very much a big surprise since our kids are 6, 14, & 15 now. I've been feeling rather green and bleh the past few days, and want nothing more than to spend all day in the bed. We also have only one bathroom and it's at the other end of the house from my room (the former garage). I'm not getting sick, just feeling very very very blah and constantly nauseated. Apparently I am not well suited to using iVillage's fertility tracker program to avoid a pregnancy, because somewhere I must have miscalculated. It was either that or my cycle got wonky with the stress surrounding ds15's return home. In any case, as we've been breaking the news to friends and family, we've received a variety of responses. Overall it's been a positive reaction from people, but I'm sure at some point we'll have someone ask "don't you know what causes that?" or say something judgemental about it etc. I have a few retorts handy just in case. So...there ya go. My update in a nutshell.


I did say it was Crazy Times, and exponential at that.

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your

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Sat, 01-31-2009 - 11:01am

Oh Trish!

 


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Registered: 06-11-2007
Sat, 01-31-2009 - 6:34pm
Thanks Karen. It's been a definite surprise and so far we've been greeted with lots of enthusiasm from most everyone else, and it's starting to rub off on me at least. DH hasn't been sleeping well the past few nights lol. I am making rounds of calling the ladies from this past MOMS journey to tell them first before I send an email to the coordinator to share the news with the ministry as a whole. I have two ladies left to tell. And ds15 is doing his schoolwork online to finish up this year's work. Next year, he's going to school in a building which will afford me some much needed quiet time away from the constant presence of a teenager with a strong personality.
~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

Irish siggy courtesy beaches59

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Registered: 06-11-2007
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 11:02am

I am coming back again to update on the announcement process with family and friends. For the most part, people are happy for us, or generally surprised, and I've also been met with "you're kidding" quite a bit. Well no, it's not something I'd kid about and besides it's not April 1st yet ;)


I need prayers for my sister. Her physical, mental and emotional health are all in a bad state of affairs. She's had a history of depression, but I think she's at a very low point right now. She's not happy for anyone under any circumstances. She's been responding to things with nasty comments, and the news of my pregnancy is no exception. She's subsequently gone behind me to say nasty and off-color

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:27pm

Oh Trish!! ((((HUGS))) and huge congratulations! A baby is always a wonderful blessing, and I'm sure you're going to do just fine with this. But I do know about those happy little surprises, and how they can throw you for a loop. My TWIN girls were just such a surprise! I felt really freaked and kind of "taken over by an alien force" for the first few weeks, and then I got dreadfully sick to my stomach (Twin hormones are worse, and make you sicker!) and forgot about my shock and just concentrated on making it through the day without vomiting. . . Imagine my surprise when I found out my little "detour" was actually a DOUBLE detour!

And now I cannot imagine my life without my beautiful girls. They are such a joy, so much fun and so precious. They have brought out the best in my DH and me as parents. They have added incredibly to my family. We have daughters, and my sons have sisters, and they have rounded things off and made things so much more wonderful (Despite the added work!). One year from now, you will feel the same way about your new baby. I know you're not unhappy, and are accepting this wonderful news so well, but I did want to give you this "hug" of encouragement and a BTDT!! ;)

As for your sister, well. . . I can relate to that too. Although for me, it was my SIL. She told me "I would shoot myself in the head if I found out I was pregnant with twins!" (Yeah, well, good thing it's me and not you then!). I also got all kinds of comments from the General Public: "Better you than me!" "Oh my, you're going to be so busy with 4 kids!" "You will never get any sleep." "Twins will be so hard when you already have 2 boys." "You just ruined your cute little body" (said with a laugh!), "Let's hope there's at least one girl in there this time." "You and Michael are just too fertile." "You two should know what causes THAT, your husband's a doctor!" (Hence, my blinkie ;) ). It is rude and obnoxious, and especially hurtful from family. You are good to ask for prayers for her, and you are insightful, mature and wise to recognize her illness(es) as a cause. I will pray for her. Just remember---this too shall pass.

Take care of yourself, Trish! Get as much rest as you can. PLEASE stay in touch with us! And you know I am just an email away.

(((Hugs to you and your precious new life!))))




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Registered: 06-11-2007
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 11:56pm

Thanks Sofia, I credit a LOT of where I am personally with having been part of the CRHP (Christ Renews His Parish) process 2 years ago, and also my increased involvement with MOMS. So far sis's is the only nasty commentary. My childhood friend did have a kneejerk reaction that stems from how things ended up the last time I told her I was pregnant 15 years ago. At that point, another friend betrayed my trust and I didn't know who I could or couldn't trust so I shut everyone out except BF(DH). She was scared that I'd do that again. I guess we all have skeletons peeking out of the closet. I didn't want to go alone to get the test because I still had those fears from when I was 17. DH saying he was ok with it and that he had to be really, no other option for us, made it easier to go while he was at work the next day. The next worst are the typical ones "you know what causes that" from my dh's grandfather this morning. "Yes PawPaw, we like it and are obviously good at it." I think PawPaw secretly appreciates that I don't just back down from his comments, I fire back lol. My dad asked "what? you forget your hip-boots?"
For me the difficult transition was from one to two because the boys are so close in age. DD6 just slid right into the mix, and I suspect this one will too. To quote my friend who has 4 kids (8, 10, 19, 21) "After three, what's one more?" She'd babysit for me and had 7 kids in tow sometimes...She's an angel in human form in my life.

Also, I did pay better attention to your sig blinkies, and may I steal a few of the applicable ones? I soo like Firefox better than IE. My brother was almost celebratory when I finally downloaded it lol.

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

Irish siggy courtesy beaches59

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Mon, 02-02-2009 - 9:52am

Trish,I'm so happy for you and your family..Congratulations!!

I hope you find as much comfort and support with your MOMS friends as I did..I have to share,there were about 3 of us pg at the same time.

 


 


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Mon, 02-02-2009 - 11:19am
WoW! People can be so rude.I actually got the opposite since Gabby is an only One time when she would not share or some typical 3 year old behavior.I actually had a mom but in and tell me her daughter used to not share until she had a sisiter and now she shares all the time since she is no longer an only right...As if siblings never argue...I think any family is perfect no matter what.Once a baby is born you can never imagine your live without them,Now I would not want Octuplets but that is another story.....;-)

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 02-02-2009 - 12:46pm

Congratulations!!!!!!! I am so very, very happy for you. It could have been stress, it could have been a miscalculation -- or it could be that God wanted to entrust you with this little one, and He made it happen. With my 4th, I was a bit worried about people's reactions, and I also found that they were mostly positive. I also quickly found that I didn't really care.


I imagine the adjustment to having your son home would be difficult under any circumstances, and then to have him home all the time just magnifies things. Is he getting along with his siblings?


Crazy times -- but wonderful too. I hope you feel better soon.


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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 10:33pm

Congrats Trish!

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Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:10pm
Trish, what a profound blessing.

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