Dealing with a pet's death

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Dealing with a pet's death
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 3:03pm

Let me see if I can get through this without crying..most likely not.

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 5:47pm

Oh, Megan, that's such a hard decision to make.

 


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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 8:24pm

(((Megan))) your post brought tears to my eyes! I am so sorry you had to go through this, and I know how you feel.

First, DO NOT feel guilty. You did what you thought was best. You brought Adonis out of misery. You gave him a wonderful life, and you kept him from suffering too much (I love his name, by the way :) ).

Secondly, I know how hard this is. We went through this with a HEALTHY dog in 1999. We had had a dalmation for 8 years, long before we had kids. She was really Michael's dog and she was very spoiled. He took her everywhere with him, and she was his "study buddy" when he was in medical school. He loved her so much, he even let her sleep on the furniture (!!). I think I've told this story before, but when Matthew was about 10 months old, he pulled himself up on the couch and grabbed her fur, and she whirled around and bit him in the face. Luckily, she didn't break the skin (although she did leave toothmarks), but we couldn't risk a second time when she might take his face off. She just wasn't used to kids, and that was our fault. So we talked all night, and made the difficult, tearful decision to put her down (She couldn't have been anyone else's pet, she was way too attached to us). I still feel guilt over it, and I know what you mean by holding your pet and keeping them calm while the doctor gives them the injection. That is the hardest thing in the world. Michael was actually the one to hold her, but I was right there with him stroking her head, and I will never forget that tragic moment, even though she didn't suffer. And I felt so bad for my husband, too, because he loved her sooooo much. And I still miss her :(

As far as CJ goes, I would tell him the truth. I would tell him that Adonis got very old and sick, and he died at the vet's office. Then explain that he is no longer sick, but he is happy and with God in Heaven. I am absolutely convinced that animals DO go to Heaven (I go back to my Orthodox roots on that). That all life goes back to God. If we love our pets, imagine how much more HE loves them! He gives us our love for them, after all. And they are a gift from Him to us in many ways, and we just give that gift back to Him when they die. And I DO think they have souls. Not the way we do, but if you look into your pet's eyes, you see a soul. They are not just a physical creature, they are spiritual too. So you can rest assured that you, and CJ, will someday be with Adonis again.

Huge, huge (((((hugs))))) to you! This is the first post I've read in a long time that has actually made me cry. Maybe I'm not over Sadie yet, LOL! I will say a prayer for you, CJ, your DH and Adonis.

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 2:40pm

Thank you ladies for your kind and thoughtful posts.

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Mon, 11-03-2008 - 10:31pm

Megan, I'm sorry I haven't been around for a week or so and didn't offer my condolences. I am going to say a prayer for you and your family tonight. I'm so sorry you just went through this. We have a dog and a cat and they are part of the family. I have lost pets and it is heartbreaking. It's losing a part of your family.

I think just telling CJ that Adonis is with God in Heaven, and is happy and healthy and young again in spirit, is the right thing to do. It is hard to explain death to kids from an adult perspective, but you would be surprised how much they understand, and from my experience they often accept it better than us.

Prayers and hugs to you and your family.

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Thu, 11-06-2008 - 5:36pm
Thank you Monica.
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