Deep thoughts on marriage...
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|Wed, 06-30-2004 - 1:50am|
If a person divorces civilly and finds another mate which is unacceptable in the church, how is it really possible the church can determine that the new relationship isn't a true relationship in the eyes of God. It's very confusing to me to comprehend the formal wedding equating into what makes a marriage true. Can't a true marriage only be determined after a set amount of time proves out the people have a true committment to God and each other?
My spouse and are are catholic and have been married 10 years. My spouse was married before in the catholic church and so we are living in sin according to the church. I am not an educated catholic, just a cradle catholic trying to come back to my faith as of late. I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact my spouses ex who was abusive, adultering, and short lived (3yrs) could possibly be construed as his soul-mate in the eyes of God, and me (10yrs) and having a very healthy loving bond to my spouse could be construed as forbidden blastfomous relationship. I mean, if God only knows these things then why do we even go through the formality of the service when we can't guarantee another humans actions thus their committment to marriage? I have been told for my spouse to get an annulment. But if the marriage is invalid in the eyes of God then what really is the formality of proving it to a couple of people outside the marriage to agree and process paperwork on it. I mean if God knows than why is it necessary and what impact does it make? Do these tribunal people and priest do a special intervention on our behalf to God, some kind of intervention we can't do on our own because we aren't up on the same level as a priest? I am trying to undersand the faith. I haven't talked to a priest about it because I am afraid my question will offend him. I was just wondering if I was thinking about this too deeply and there is a simple explaination for it all.