First Reconiliation

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First Reconiliation
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Wed, 02-18-2009 - 6:21pm

My second grader Justin will be making his First Reconciliation on Saturday morning. He is preparing to make his First Holy Communion in May. We are not having a celebration for his First Reconciliation, but we will go out to brunch as a family afterwards in recognition of what a big deal it is.

The way our parish does it is a bit different, and I'm wondering if this is how it's now done with all second graders: There are 5 priests sitting at various points in the church, and the kids line up and go forward one-by-one and whisper their sins to them from a short list, recieve absolution and a penance. None of this dark, screened confessional stuff that my husband grew up with! It kind of reminds me of when I was Orthodox. Every Sunday before receiving Holy Communion, you quickly confess your sins to the priest under a garment, to "cleanse you and make you worthy" to recieve Eucharist.

We are giving Justin a book of Catholic daily prayers for kids on Saturday. Do all of you give gifts for First Reconciliation?




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Registered: 08-11-2007
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 6:37pm
OUr parish is pretty small and it has a lot of elderly peopls,so when Gab made her first reconiliation there wer only 8 kids.Howevr they did it the same way you described,but there was only one priest.He gave them a medel in memory of the occasion.We really did not do anything else.One little boy came back to his seat wipeing his brow,becaus ehe was so relieved it was over;-)I actually did not make my first reconiliation until I was in 5th grade,because our parish priest did not believe kids under 10 wer capable oof doing anything really bad.We did do it in a dark booth though.So we actually made our First Holy COmmunion before our first reconiliation.

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Wed, 02-18-2009 - 7:01pm

When Bernard made his, it was a weeknight, I think.

 


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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 8:42am

Yup!

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 10:45am

When my daughter made hers a few years ago, it was similar to the way you describe. The pews in our church are situated in a "U" shape meaning that they surround the altar on three sides. As I recall, there was a priest stationed on either side of the altar, against the wall, and one in each of the three confessionals - which are more like little rooms. We only have one "old fashioned" confessional in our church which I am not sure is even used.


They did a nice job of making sure no one sat near to where the priests were sitting so that there was no concern about others overhearing what the kids said. My daughter was sent to one of those priests and in my mind, I can still see her sitting on the very edge of her chair, just waiting until she was given absolution so that she could bolt!


When they go to confession during school, it is also face-to-face.


Good luck to Justin!


Michele

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:19am

Yay Justin!!

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:39am

It's definitely different now! I think they consciously try to make confession less forbidding to not frighten off the kids, and to let the parents know that this is something they're supposed to do often. I'm sure many of the parents bringing their kids to first reconciliation do not go to confession themselves.

When I was growing up, our confessional had a heavy velvet curtain and there was barely room to kneel. I dreaded the feeling of being smothered that I got when I went in there. In our parish church now, the confessional is a whole room, with windows to the outside and a window in the door (installed after the priest scandals), and you can see whoever is in there. It's not as private as it could be, but it is certainly less scary for kids. Mine never protest about going to confession, as I did, and I don't think it's any magic of mine that's doing it - I'm pretty sure it's just because it feels less secretive and more matter-of-fact to them.

Kelly

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:47am

Eddie made his first reconciliation in December. It was just as you described, except with a prayer service first. When I made my first reconciliation (1976), it was the first year for face-to-face. So around here, the confessionals have been optional for a long time. But each diocese -- and even each church -- is different.


As for how we celebrate -- we go out to dinner as a family, and the child gets a watch. There's no religious significance to the watch. It is just because first reconciliation falls at about the same time as learning to tell time. First communion is in April, and then we'll give Eddie a rosary, and his siblings will give him a St. Edward medal.


Give Justin my congratulations!


Polly

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 4:30pm

I drive 30 miles to the 'hood of Detroit and pass all the contemporary communities.

 
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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:06pm

I love reading about the first reconciliations for the kids!



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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:09pm

Sounds quite a bit like what we did with Phillip this past December.

 

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