Friendship and Fellowship

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 8:58pm

Hello Ladies ~


I decided to come back to the board to grow in friendship and fellowship with other Catholics.


Over the past few months, I have struggled with many things and have decided that this year I am going to focus on my faith and relationship with Christ.


So a re-introduction of me:


I am Jennifer and my DH is Eric. We have 4 children between the two us - 2 boys and 2 girls ages, 20, 17, 17 and 16. We come from different faith backgrounds and have many differing fundamental beliefs.


Every day brings new challenges to get though and every day I remind myself that with faith in Jesus I will make it through. I am on my faith journey by myself since my DH is not Catholic and does not agree with Catholic teaching. This will also be a challenge but can be overcome.


I hope to get to know you all.

Valentines Siggy

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 9:23pm

Welcome, Jennifer!


I'm Karen.

 


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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 9:56pm

Karen ~


Thank you for the welcome!


I am a cradle Catholic but never really found my way. I know what I believe and I know what I question, but at the end of the day I know that Jesus is my savior. the homily given today was about training and practicing. I understand that we are not perfect, and no matter what mistakes we make...big or small...we are not perfect and by asking forgiveness we can continue practicing and training. So every time I back slide and fall from Church, I can come back and continue with my personal training.


This year I want to start focusing on building my faith. Today in mass we had 8 Confirmandi welcomed home! It was Awesome! I even got tears during the ceremony.


I have always been told 2 different places to start with building faith in Bible readings. I have been told the Gospel of John or the Book of Job. I think to understand the patience that I need I should start with Job. Then I will move on to the Gospel of John.


My church is having a faith awakening series starting Tuesday night. I want to be a part of it, but I have pre-existing plans for this Tuesday and will not be able to join until the second session.


I am always open to suggestions on readings - scripture and otherwise. We cant do this alone and I hope to find support and friendship with all here.

Valentines Siggy

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:42pm

I am a cradle Catholic, but I took a detour on the journey about 15 years ago. Not really a detour, because I didn't go anywhere, but a pitstop. 9-11 was what really jump-started my return. It had been floating around in my mind, but that really caused me to stop and think and to realize it was a good thing planes hadn't hit my building that day.

Slowly the road unfolded, and cautiously I walked down it. Back to Mass, into the confessional, to a parish to call my own. It has led to daily Mass any time I can get there, going to confession more than once a year (or decade), Bible Study at my parish, Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament on occasion. Daily prayer. It really has been a journey, though not without potholes in the road sometimes. The more I have learned, the more I appreciate the richness of our faith, and the more I realize how much more there is to do and to learn.

One thing that is pretty easy to digest is the daily meditation/reflection from Word Among Us www.wau.org

Go where the Holy Spirit leads. The faith awakening sounds like a good thing!

Two years ago when our new pastor announced that one of the things near and dear to his heart was adult education and that he would be facilitating a 12-week study of Revelations, I knew without question that I had to be there. Last year we did a 24 week survey of the Bible (Bible TImeline). Now we are studying Matthew. I have learned so much. ANd there is so much yet to learn!

Enjoy the trip!

Karen

 


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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 10:48pm

Welcome back Jennifer.....

I can't even imagine how hard the faith journey must be when you don't have your spouse there to nudge you or support you along the way

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James, Abigail, Theresa & John


www.reneesuz.blogspot.com

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 10:54pm

Karen ~


I am so glad that you were able to find your path back to the Church! Sometimes it does take a major event to give us that kick start we need.


The Faith Awakening program will be a good one. The series is for 5 or 6 weeks but can extend an additional 4 weeks if the interest is there. I contacted the Sister responsible for coordinating the event and she indicated that it was perfectly fine to begin in week two.


I think this will be a start to getting me back. Unfortunately, I struggled to get involved due to waiting on my DH to want to be involved. With as wrong as that was, it is the truth. I waited and hoped that he would want to be a part of it too.


This year, however, is going to be different. With or without his support, I need to strengthen my own faith and my own relationship with Christ.


I am looking forward to this year being a great new start in so many aspects of my own life!! I will definitely check out the website you offered.


Thanks!!

Valentines Siggy

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 11:04pm

Renee ~


Thanks for the welcome!! I am glad to be back....I just knew that I had to step away and get things taken care of.


Although, it is going to have its own unique challenges, making this journey alone will still be worth it in the end. Maybe over the course of the journey it will help to resolve some of the differences we have and maybe even bring some enlightenment to the relationship.


**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 5:24pm

Jennifer, I'm married to an agnostic. I am very fortunate in that he doesn't undermine my raising our kids Catholic - in fact, he is quite supportive (he's agnostic, not atheist, which mostly means he has no real opinion). We've been together for 27 years, and for the first 10, I was a Catholic of somewhat feeble strength, feeling a cultural and social connection to the Church, but not really a strong *faith*. I didn't even start to consistently pray on a daily basis until about 13 years ago.

There are certainly times when it would have been nice to have had a Catholic husband who thought raising kids with a belief in the Trinity was a top priority. I instituted saying grace before meals about 10 years ago, and I've always had the kids say bedtime prayers, but we can't say a family rosary without excluding DH, which doesn't seem right to me so we don't do it; and our dinnertime conversations about religion tend to stay at the fairly superficial level of "religion" vs "faith." It would also be nice if I were able to share with him my faith journey over the last 15 years. DH is my best friend in everything but that - for that, I have other people.

However, he couldn't be more supportive of me or of the Catholic faith. He attends mass every Sunday with us, takes the kids to CCD on Sunday if I'm away that weekend, and to everyone in church seems to be a perfect practicing Catholic. Our oldest daughter goes to a Catholic high school, and he is perfectly happy to do whatever it takes for the other kids if going to Catholic school would be the right thing for them too. He does this because he believes it is part of his wedding vow to "love and honor you all the days of my life." That includes honoring my belief that raising kids to have a faith life and a faith community is very important.

The other plus is that our kids see firsthand that everyone doesn't have to agree with each other on even fundamental beliefs to have fulfilling and loving relationships. They've learned something about respecting others *and* pursuing things that are deeply important by seeing DH and me.

I encourage you to get involved in one or two groups in your church that will supplement the need to share your faith journey with others. I'm a member of the Cursillo movement and this has been a huge support to me. I also became part of an online group of friends 12 years ago that has become extremely important to me. Our spouses don't have to be *everything* to us, and if this doesn't become a bone of contention, spouses of different faith traditions can live together compatibly and respectfully.

Kelly

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Fri, 01-15-2010 - 7:10pm

Kelly ~


Thank you for your reply. I think it is a great thing that your DH is so supportive of your faith and with the kids following in the faith.


My DH used to go to church with me on the Sunday, but stopped going since he wanted to go to the Church that he and his ex wife used to attend. It was more to his liking. We had discussed attending church with each other, however my husband has no interest in going to Catholic Church since he has decided to become a mason. I choose to not go to his Church because they do not believe I am truly baptized.


We do have a wedge there so we dont discuss issues of faith or religion to avoid the conflict. I will support his choice and hope he supports mine, but that doesnt mean that either of us has to attend with the other as long as we are respectful.


I have decided that I am going to start reaching out at my Church and will join groups as appropriate and available. I would be really interested in going on a mission with the Church. I have always wanted to but never had the opportunity to do so.


The first group I am going to join in on is the Awakening Faith series. Although the first meeting was this past Tuesday, I will begin next week. It should be fun and informative. I hope it leads me in the right direction and to the next steps.


Thanks!!!


**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Sat, 01-16-2010 - 5:05pm

Jennifer,


Welcome! I'm Lisa. I have 2 boys 18 and13. I was not raised catholic, but Episcopalian.