Getting a home visit from parish priest.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Getting a home visit from parish priest.
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 12:06pm
He and a member of the church are coming to my home to talk about the donation to the church that we will pledge for a 5 year time period. I am nervous about him coming to my home but also about the amount of money he might ask us for. We are already stretched for money and to have him asking to add more is kind of unnerving my dh. Anyone have something like this going on in their parish? How much are they expecting us to give? We tith, give to the bishops appeal, pay tuition for school and now they want even more. I know it takes a community to build a parish but I am starting to feel really tapped out. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Jan

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:35pm

I have never heard of this before.

"Government big enough to supply everything you need is big enough to take everything you have. The course of history shows that as a government grows, liberty decreases." - Thomas Jeff

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 10:00am
Thanks for the support now if I can just say No to him. I talked to a friend of mine who has already been visited and she said they asked for 25,000. Her sister was asked for 50,000. I know her husband makes a considerable amount more then my dh, but how does the church know who makes what? I don't remember ever submitting anything about our income to them. I am hoping they do not ask for that much and will take time and talent over money. I do feel and obligation as a member of the church community and as a school parent to give something to the effort, but we have our limits.

Jan

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:14pm
If you already tithe, my guess is that they are either talking to everyone, or hoping to get more from their best contributors. Either way, stand your ground and tell them that you're giving all you can. I'm certain many members don't tithe, so that alone should impress them.

My mom's parish did the door-to-door thing once. It was a combination of getting people on the parish roster to go to church, uncovering needs and concerns, and getting people to commit to a certain amount. I understand the need -- it is hard to run the business side of the church when you don't know what your income will be month to month.

My parish asks once a year for people to complete a survey saying how much they'll contribute each week, and then sends quarterly statements. I didn't even return the survey, but its presence did make me figure out exactly how much I was comfortable giving, and made me budget it. So the result was the same.

Polly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 4:39pm
Just say no - politely - but firmly, the way you just said to us. As someone else just pointed out it may also be a way of being able to visit with parishioners to find out concerns particularly from those who may not have been attending church. I'm sure you must feel a bit like you're being audited by the IRS LOL.
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 7:11pm
I know this isn't just a visit to see what the needs of the parish are as we as a diosese are doing this 5 year giving thing. I talked to a friend today and she told me that so much will go to the parish and the rest will go toward the dioseses. My concern now is how much are they going to ask for again in a few months to build onto the school as they have been talking about. I guess I am just feeling nickled and dimes to death right now. I will try to stand my ground and be firm but I need to have a few questions asked. Oh he isn't coming alone he is bring another parishner with him.

jan