Grievance about parish priest
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|Wed, 02-04-2004 - 10:37am|
Recently, our children received report cards. The pastor gave them out to the children.
In one class, the pastor withheld the report card from one student saying to the student in front of all the classmates, "You are not receiving your report card because your parents have not met their financial obligation." The child was, naturally, embarrassed and horrified. The parents are hopping mad and are ready to leave the school.
The fact is that these parents DID meet their financial obligation and can document having done so. Even if they didn't, I felt that this was highly inappropriate behavior on the part of our pastor. As a parent, I am deeply concerned and offended. If it happened to these children whose parents did nothing wrong, it could certainly happen to mine. But I am unsure as to who to complain to or how to help this family put their grievance in writing to the correct authorities.
This is not the first out-of-bounds behavior by this pastor and word has it that many parents have already written the archdiocese on other matters to no avail. Can someone tell me if there is a correct way to address a grievance concerning a pastor's behavior toward members of the school community? Is there some way to get the archdiocese (of NYC) to listen? Do any of you have any kind of experience like this?
For the record, I love the school and the parish. The community and the principal are wonderful and I personally would hate to leave. But if the pastor continues to alienate parishioners, parents and students, we can't stay open for long so I'm losing sleep over this. Any suggestions from one who has been there?