hi,to all have a few questions

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hi,to all have a few questions
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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 9:03am
hi, i in no way mean for this to be a debate, just needing some answers if anyone can help . my dd 22yrs old is engaged , she was raised bapist he was raised catholic they set the date to marry on oct.9 2010 we live in middle tn. we dont know any catholics to ask he moved here from mich. he is a very nice and good guy and i am happy for my dd
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Thu, 08-13-2009 - 11:23am

Hi, and welcome. Congratulations to your daughter and her fiance!


Here are a few answers:


1. Catholics don't use the KJV. There are basically two differences between KJV and the Bibles that Catholics use. The first is the language. The KJV is more old-fashioned, for lack of a better word. But all the

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 08-14-2009 - 7:35am

Congratulations to your daughter and future SIL.


In what church or are they chosing to marry in a church?

 


 


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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 9:12am
hi, thank you both for your replys they were very helpful in understanding some things, my dd thought so too. yes, northern ways are very different from our ways not that anything is wrong with there ways just different from ours , they are planning on getting married in a state park in tn. in a lodge very pretty, they don't know who they will ask to marry them yet, there are some catholic churches in
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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 10:47am

Hi I'm Baptism coordinator at my parish. Regarding the Sacrament of Baptism in the Catholic church, babies are to be baptized soon after birth. At that time the Catholic parent(s) and godparents answer for the baby. Later on at the time of the Sacrament of Confirmation, the child then answers for him/herself usually as a teenager.


In a mixed marriage, it is the Catholic spouse who takes responsibilty - with the help of the godparents - for raising the child in the Catholic faith. In order for Baptism to take place in the Catholic church the priest has to be assured that the child will be brought up in the Catholic faith. Baptism is more than just a social occasion or "the thing to do". Promises are made during the Baptism (by the parents and godparents) to help raise the child in the Catholic faith. It's a commitment.


It would definitely be better for them to discuss this now, before the marriage.


Ruth


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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 9:35pm

I married a Southern Baptist, and the last 15 years has been very interesting. We grew up with different views, and it's prompted some heated debates here. Our two teen boys were not baptized because at that time, he wouldn't cooperate. When the boys were old enough for religious education classes, I signed them up for it. DH wasn't happy about it. HOWEVER, dh was also not doing anything about the spiritual formation for our kids either. My MIL told him "if you both agreed to do something to teach the kids about your faith, but you're not doing it, you honestly have no room to complain when the other one takes steps forward to teach the kids. If you have issue with it, then you have to step up and take the kids to church too." Well, he didn't pursue anything further himself so it has basically been left up to me. Later we had another child but she wasn't baptized as a baby either. The priest at my old parish wouldn't baptize her because DH and I didn't get married in the church. The priest at our current parish said there was no need for such a hard stance in this instance, and encouraged us to get dd baptized. Our dd was baptized just before she turned 7 so she could avoid having to go through RCIA like her brothers did. I'm pregnant again with our 4th baby and quite honestly it would be a bigger challenge to handle the stuff involved in doing that for my older daughter when I'd also be dealing with a baby too. With this baby I do plan on baptizing her as an infant. With time my dh has softened his views, or at least his voicing of them, and isn't as strongly opposed to it as he would have been 15 years ago.

All that being said, I would encourage you and your daughter to learn more about Catholicism so that you can understand her fiance's point of view on several things, not just baptism. There are programs at parishes called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults). This is the formation method that people go through to convert to Catholicism. HOWEVER, that does not mean you'd be taking these classes to convert. A conversion is a very personal journey and no one else can make you become Catholic if that is not what is truly in your heart to do. There are people that take the RCIA classes to learn about the Catholic faith, and nothing more. For you coming from a background with what is sometimes called a "Sola Scriptura" (Scripture Only) stance, some of the long-standing practices and beliefs of the Catholic Church are hard to reconcile with what you've known all your life. One part of RCIA is aimed at clarifying things like those differences.

I would suggest that you might take a look at Catholicism for Dummies as well. As a "cradle Catholic" I am seriously lacking in my book knowledge of my faith because my parents did not pursue much of my religious education. It makes things difficult for me to explain as an adult to non-Catholics around me. I will say that there are some people who claim Catholics don't do anything Bible based, but that's very untrue.

As to the answer to your question:
I searched the US Council of Catholic Bishops' website for where it states in the Catechism anything about infant baptism. I did find these links which references a few verses in the Bible (Acts and 1 Corinthians) as well as the practice of infant baptism. I hope it helps shed even a nightlight's worth on it for you and your daughter.
http://www.usccb.org/catechism/quizzes/baptism9.shtml
http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2.shtml

~Trish

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and until we meet again,
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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your