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I have a question for you
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 3:33pm
Hi!

I am Catholic, my DH is not. DH attends mass, but, of course, does not go to Communion. Our pastor and the good sisters at our parish have welcomed DH and treat him like any other parishioner. Our pastor's term is up in June and we are getting a new pastor. Should DH and I tell the new pastor that DH isn't Catholic?

Beth
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 6:08pm
I think it depends on the size of the parish and how close a relationship you want with your pastor. I live in a huge parish; unless you're extremely involved in parish activities, it's unlikely that the pastor -- or any of his associate priests, for that matter -- would know you that well. As long as you're not doing anything that violates Church norms -- and since your husband doesn't take Communion, it sounds like you're not -- I don't think there's any reason to tell unless you just want to. If, on the other hand, your parish is small enough that the pastor knows everybody by name, or if you just want the pastor to have a close, personal relationship with your family, then go ahead and tell. But I can't think of any reason Church law would require you to.
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 6:12pm
A little postscript to my reply (and it's going to seem like a tangent at first): The public schools where I live are really horrible. Because of that, the Catholic schools are full of non-Catholic kids. They're simply the best "bang for the buck" for private schools. So while the priests and nuns would certainly prefer everyone be Catholic, they in no way look down on anyone who isn't. They have daily contact with far too many non-Catholics for that to be an issue.
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 7:51pm
Thank you.

We are a little worried because DH has such a bad opinion of organized religion, but our parish, particularly the current pastor and the sister, have made him so welcome. We will not worry about it then.

Thanks again

Beth