I made it!

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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 1:15pm
I can't believe I made it though Lent!


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In reply to: cl_jenastar
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 2:04pm

Thanks for sharing what you learned during Lent!

I gave up sweets and salty snacks for Lent (though I allowed myself a bit on Sundays). I found that it really was liberating to not think about treats and whether I should let myself eat them, because I have a tendency to obsess about food. For the first time, fasting from something felt like liberation rather than deprivation. I decided to stick with not eating sweets and salty snacks on weekdays, unless it's something special like a birthday. (Or like when I got together with Ruth "churchbear" from this board last week, forgot that ice cream counts as a sweet because I almost never eat it, and found myself scarfing down about 1/2 a cup before I realized I shouldn't have! LOL!)

I gave up some other things, and did some other things, too, during Lent, and while I wasn't 100% successful with all of them, it added up to a Lent that felt more spiritual and more focused. It also gave me the idea of continuing to try to do things or give things up as a regular spiritual practice, outside of Lent. Not that that's a new idea to lots of people, but it's the first time I really saw the value of it. I always had felt giving up something for Lent "because Jesus suffered for us" was trivializing His suffering. In the last year, I've been slowly gaining an appreciation for minor deprivation as both a means to freedom from the tyranny of my petty desires and a means of being in community/solidarity with people who in the circumstances of their lives don't actually have choices about gratifying petty desires because they don't have the means.

Kelly

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In reply to: cl_jenastar
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 5:28pm

Lent was very good here, too.


I gave up chocolate and soft drinks.

 


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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 6:40pm
I'm prone to providing criticism plenty often myself. I don't know if you remember, but a couple years ago I had stores taken from me because of some foolishness on the part of a store manager. I ranted about it frequently enough, all while trying to convince myself that it was better for me to shift gears, I was just needing to wait and find out what was up with it. As it turned out, the store manager was not long in leaving the company after I was removed from that account's store service. I still won't shop in that particular craft store but God knew I wasn't handling the stress of that client's demands very well and I needed to move on from it. It made me look at how critical I have been of things and how much I complain. I was also in the middle of my preparations for presenting the CRHP weekend to the next team, and was in the process of quieting the internal dialogue etc. I decided to make a conscious effort to reframe my words and evaluate if the words leaving my mouth had any merit, value or if they were better off unsaid. Ultimately I just needed a break from the amount of work I was doing, and needed to focus more on home. In getting my mouth to close more, my eyes opened and I found a different clarity that my own noise prevented.
Because I quieted down, got my love cup refilled, stopped criticizing my husband and started acting in a more loving way (as in: I was not doting on him but I just shut my mouth more), he in turn stopped waiting on me to bite him and wasn't always on guard and on the defensive. The past month I've relapsed briefly but he in turn also was able to realize where his errors were in something and has been overheard saying something along the lines of recognizing that he needs to correct it. I suspect that part of it was while I did criticize him, I was to the point and contained my gripe to the root of the problem, and not slinging character attacks at him.
~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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In reply to: cl_jenastar
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 7:28pm

What an inspiring thread!


The thing I love about Lent is that it helps develop habits.

Roz

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Mon, 04-13-2009 - 10:03pm

You ladies did great during Lent!!

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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 8:50am

I'm impressed with all ya'll accomplished this Lent. I had great plans but didn't stick to any of them :(

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:29am
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Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:33am

Thanks for the encouragement Cindy.

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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In reply to: cl_jenastar
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:41am

Three of the things I gave up during Lent happen to be food related: my weekend donut(s), Rhode Island Lighthouse Coffee IceCream (love that stuff!) and Lifesaver mints. Dh and I always stop at the drive thru on Sat. mornings before errands for coffee and usually a donut or a few donut holes. THEN...my most favorite donut in the whole world is a chocolate covered raised donut that are part of the donuts/coffee my parish has every Sunday morning after each of the Masses. For a number of years now I've given up that donut and just had coffee. The Lifesaver mints over the last few years have become something dh and I both always have in our pockets. Didn't have one of any of that stuff for all of Lent. I can't say that I felt while doing it that it was especially hard, but boy did I enjoy that first bowl of RI Lighthouse coffee ice cream on Sunday. And also bought myself a donut at the grocery store to have on Sunday morning LOL. I actually forgot all about the mints until yesterday I spotted the one that's been sitting in front of me on my computer desk for all of Lent, and had that one. It was pretty good (but not as good as the donut or the ice cream LOL).


Kelly don't worry about the ice cream you ate that night before you suddenly remembered LOL.


Ruth


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In reply to: cl_jenastar
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 3:15pm

Lent was a pretty good time here. I learned a lot about my kids and their religion. How they keep it, what they know, what they are curious about etc.


I didn't give anything up. I prefer to do something instead of not doing something. So stepped up my random acts of kindness, I called ppl I hadn't heard from in a while and tried to spread the Good News as I know it. I kept the fast and meat restrictions. We prayed as a family and attended as many services as we could together.


One thing I am so happy about is bring a new family to church. A friend on my block expressed interest in my parish and I kept giving as much info and encouragement as I could. Well it seemed to cool off so I told her that I would always ask when I was on my way to church if she wanted to go. Well she came with us on Good Friday! She and her two small girls. We sat with them in the pew my girls and I on one side and two of my boys on the other. Dh and my other son sat in the pew behind them. We helped them get through the service by pointing out where they should be in the missal. It was so nice. I hope they come more regularly. I will continue to offer support.

~~~~R e i n a~~~~

 

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