I need some parenting advice...

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Thu, 07-09-2009 - 2:38pm

Okay..I know I've posted some about CJ's behavior issues at school.

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Thu, 07-09-2009 - 4:23pm

Megan, does he have nightmares? That could be the problem -- the nightmares are scary, and keep him awake, which means he's tired the next day, which makes him clingy...and the cycle continues. All my kids need a full night sleep to be at their best. In fact, two have sleepovers tonight, so I'm already anticipating frayed nerves tomorrow.


If that's not it... well, it could be almost anything. My kids go through clingy phases. I do just what you do, and try to be understanding except at those times when I really need them to get over it.


I know from experience that if you let a kid in your bed, it is hard to get him out. But you could plan a sleepover (with you and your husband -- not with friends), either in a tent (outside or inside) or in the living room or in his room. That's always fun and a good break from routine. Offering that as a reward for several nights of going to bed without complaining and staying in bed may also work.


Does he have an explanation for how he feels?


Good luck.


Polly

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Thu, 07-09-2009 - 7:27pm

Thanks for the suggestions Polly.

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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 8:12am

That's great advice Polly,esp the tent thing. DH keeps talking with the kids about pitching a tent out back or going somewhere.

 


 


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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 11:13am

That's the problem with nightmares -- they are hard to articulate, even for adults. The bright clock may actually be a factor. I read some study that kids with night lights don't sleep as well as those without. Maybe you can turn it away from his bed so that the light isn't as bright, and so that he doesn't see what time it is when he wakes up in the middle of the night.


FWIW, if you had him in your bed as a toddler and he's not there now, you're doing better than I. My 4 year old sleeps on our floor way too often, and my 8 year old sneaks in

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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 4:38pm

The thing with the clock is that he has to push the button to make the light come on.

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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 4:38pm

(((Megan))) I'm sorry for both you and CJ. I was thinking along the same lines as Polly with the nightmares. Their little minds just take off, and a shadow that they've seen on the wall for years can suddenly become something very frightening. How old is CJ again? I seem to remember he was about the same age as Ian. Ian is 5. We're going through something similar with getting him to sleep in his room. I'm not sure what to do. I just got the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers" (since it's for older kids vs. the baby version) from the library. It might be worth checking out. Since I just got it last night I haven't had a chance to look at it too much. I'll read through it this weekend and see if it's beneficial.

The living room camp-outs are awesome. Ian loves to sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor. Either in his little outdoors tent (which fits nicely in the living room) or under a homemade sheet tent. It's pretty cute!

I hope the weekend goes a bit better for your family.








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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 4:52pm

CJ asked to make a tent in the living room and have camp out when he saw somebody doing it on tv. LOL

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Fri, 07-10-2009 - 5:00pm

Thank you for the great points Jeanne.

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Sun, 07-12-2009 - 8:14pm
Perhaps you can explain to him that if there is a shadow it simply means there is some light somewhere, kind of like Jesus' light peeking around the corner to make sure he's safe. Of course, if I told my kids that, then one of them would be bound to say "Well then I want a LOT of Jesus' light in my room, so leave my light on please!" lol.
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Tue, 07-14-2009 - 2:14am
LOL I like that.
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