De-lurking tonight to wish you prayers and support.
I have had my years (more than one)
I pop in from time to time, but not a regular poster....
I pray I give you an answer that will help you better understand the POSSIBLE perspective of the priest...a little background about me and my thought process first.
I'm coming out of lurking to offer my support to you. I was put in the same position. I'm a bad Catholic because I married my husband who is divorced.
First of all I have to say that all of this would NOT have happened to you if it had been my parish. I'm Family Ministry Coordinator and Baptism Coordinator.
In the first place, the status of your marriage to your husband (or whether you're even married at all) has nothing to do with your child being able to be baptized. What does matter for a Baptism to take place is there has to be assurance that this child will be brought up in the faith. That may have been the only thing on this priest's mind. But it doesn't sound as if he had that much reason to assume that and therefore in my opinion probably assumed incorrectly.