Kind of Trivial, Kind of Moral Q!

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Kind of Trivial, Kind of Moral Q!
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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 12:45pm
..Hypothetical..Pretend you are in the 3rd Grade. You are a Vegetarian and a Picky Eater. You bring tuna for lunch on Most Days. You get sneers and criticisms because of the Smell of Tuna. But, Hey, this is your Favorite Food. It makes you feel good but Lunch Room Remarks really bother you. Would you stop bringing Tuna or would you overcome it?!...Think about this. Tell me what you would do and why? Think about how old you are here, the impressionable age you are at now also...

Thanks, Jeanne

 

 

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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 4:15pm
Well, I guess for starters I'd be surprised I'm eating tuna if I'm a vegetarian. But then I'd realize there are lots of different forms of vegetarianism and I'd get over that...:)

Kids teasing because of the smell of tuna? What a sad state of affairs. The lesson is they'll tease about anything and it probably won't change with a new sandwich. If we continue to change what we do/think/say based on the criticism of (ignorant) people, we'll be left with the same behavior as those criticizing us. I might wonder if there's a motive behind the teasing: are these boys looking for attention? or someone with a crush? In the end, the third grader who faces all of it on the front lines will need to decide, but it could be a strength-building exercise if she's up for it. After all, next week, they'll be bugging the kid with too much jelly, or the kid who brings soup. It's always something and the earlier kids understand the ignorance behind teasing, the better.

All this from a very adult perspective. As a third grader, I would do anything to be like everyone else and would never wish to stand out. I would've sacrificed the tuna just to blend in, but I would've hoped my mother would give me a pep talk about the inherent goodness of my own choices. Best of luck!

Kerry

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Sun, 08-31-2003 - 7:54pm
I'll be a Nutritionist in this question. I'll think "well I also like the celery in the sandwich so I'll try eating carrots along w/ it on the side, besides I love the baby ones." I'll think what else is good along those food lines, find out what else I can eat instead of just vege foods that those foods resemble. Hopefully this will bring out the best on your *most* days. (what about applesauce?! hmm I'd think anything's better than just tuna!)

Speaking of foods, Diet is important when remembering what Jesus ONLY fed the crowds! ;)

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Tue, 09-02-2003 - 10:30am
Thank You for your Remarks to my Question...You know, this Q was brought up between a friend of mine and me. I had told her that my daughter, 6 and in 1st Grade, came home after a couple cries in the Cafeteria. Thou unsure why she was crying, I have always advised my kids that there are mean and nice kids in this world, no matter where you are. To ignore and move on. My friend, hypothetically, brought up this tuna situation. She went on to tell me that if her DD came home crying because the kids were criticising the Smell, then she would STOP Packing it because, sometimes, the innocent victim, needs to take a step back to "fit" in...My thoughts are that if YOU are a Target of Criticism, then wouldn't you get criticised regardless of what you brought for lunch (too much jelly on pb&j, wheat instead of white bread etc etc). I truly don't know. My Child is at a Real Vulnerable Age where cliques start forming and everything. I want her to keep that up beat, happy, positive attitude regardless of where she goes...Thanks again for your inputs!

Jeanne