Lurker with question re baptism

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Lurker with question re baptism
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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 9:09pm

I am Catholic.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 9:55am
Hi, I'm the baptism coordinator at my parish and we have almost an indentical situation to yours with two children ages 5 and 8 being baptized in February. For family reasons similar to yours they never had their children baptized as infants but are ready to do so now. They (mom and kids, without the nonCatholic husband) attend church regularly. Both of the children will be baptized together in a private baptism on a Sunday afternoon.
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Registered: 04-05-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 12:47pm
I personally would baptize them all together. I think it reinforces the idea of the family being the domestic church and the roots from which their faith will stem and blossom. However, your youngest child cannot be baptized again. Once you are baptized you are baptized forever. I would see if there is some way though that he can be included in the ceremony, maybe with a special blessing. Luckily he is young enough that we won't really understand too much and feel too left out.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 2:16pm
I would suggest that they be Baptized together since both can be Captized using the Rite of Baptism for Infants. If one of the was over the "age of reason" which is usually 7 then Canon Law dictates that one be Baptized using the Rite of Infants and the older if over 7 be Baptized using the Rite for Adults. The Rite of Adults only takes place at the Easter Vigil under normal conditions.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:45pm

Thank you to all! I feel so much better now, especially since there is another similar situation, I feel so BAD about it getting to this point.

 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 02-02-2004 - 8:00am

Hi and Welcome.

 


 


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Registered: 02-06-2004
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 5:44pm
I am sorry but how is it possible you were married in the catholic church to a non-catholic? How is it you are allowed to baptize the chilren catholic when your husband isn't catholic? How is it they will let you baptize them when you haven't been attending regularly? In my catholic parish they wouldn't allow someone with these circumstances take these sacraments. Just curious.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 7:43pm

First of all, No I do not believe you are sorry.


Second of all, I am a Catholic, yes

 

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Registered: 02-06-2004
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 8:20pm
I really don't know where your anger is coming from. You are really in attack mode and being malicious. I asked the question because my husband and I were in the exact boat that you are in. When we went to our church we weren't allowed to participate until all these things were done. It took us about 3 years to finally get on track and be able to participate and baptize our children from the date we set out to do it. I was just really curious how it was that you were able to do all these things without the road blocks we encountered. I was wondering if perhaps the church you were going to wasn't a true catholic church or perhaps ours is overly strict. I see it must of been at the discretion of your priest though. I think your attack was unwarranted.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 8:26pm

Perhaps you should re-read your post to see why I felt I had to defend myself.....


I felt attacked and unworthy to even THINK of having my children baptized because I have missed Mass.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 8:46pm
I'm sorry.

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