Marriage enounter or that other one?
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|Fri, 10-24-2008 - 4:07pm|
I know stuff about Catholic marriage encounter has been posted here along time ago but I have no idea how to find those posts. It's not like I'm going through all the back posts, lol. So I thought I would ask again. Have any of you been (I know you and Michael have Sofia). If so ~ did you find it helpful to your marriage? Would you recommend it to others?
I haven't really spelled all this out here, but the story is for us that we have been in a rut in our marriage. I have been married 21 years and we do love each other very much. So much time together we also get complacent. Sometimes it becomes all about the kids and no focus on us as a couple. I'm sure some of you can relate. It makes me thing that when the kids are grown and gone, I worry what we will have left. Also lately my dh has been under alot of stress with work which doesn't help. With the election coming up they are on high alert and it is stressful for him. Another stresser is our dd 16, who has caused many issues, some I have posted about here. She suffers from bulimia and anorexia. She is in therapy but she is still trying to lose weight. My dh doesn't have patience with her like I think he should. My dd's actions have caused conflict in my marriage. We also argue too much and my dh can be very moody. If the sky is gray on a bad day it's my fault. he thinks he knows best and doesn't take correction well. We also don't talk enough. We sat down and talked recently and it was a very emotional talk for both of us, but we agreed to renew our marriage and work o n it together before it tanks more than it has and we agreed we love each other and want things to be better so that is a first step. For me ~ I find marriage to be the most difficult thing, maybe even more then being a mom sometimes, lol. Anyhow, my dh is not open to going to counseling (typical man, right?) but he did agree to do marriage encounter. I know the church has at marriage encounter for people who are having marrital problems. I don't know if we fall into that category or not. The name of that marriage encounter escapes me right now so I couldn't google it. I know it starts with R if any of you know? I don't know if that is just for marriages with infidelity or on the brink of divorce, becasue that is not us. We need renewal and refreshers. We need to strenghten our relationship and work through our problems but we are not so badly off that we are thinking of splitting up. My goal is not to get to that point. I wondered if any of you could give me any advice as to whether marriage encounter sounds like it would help us or if we need the other one (whatever it is called) and also if you and your dh have been on marriage encounter did you find it helpful to your marriage?