Me and my ex-Catholic Pentacostal DIL
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|Tue, 06-15-2004 - 10:15pm|
Somewhere in between meeting each other and getting married, they started going to different churches and have finally decided on an Assembly of God one. The oldest child was baptized Catholic, but the 2 girls have not been baptized at all. We have gotten past that as best we can. (though I'm not sure MIL didn't 'baptize' them in the bathtub)
We have tried talking. DH has talked to DSS, but they are happy at this church which seems to be a bunch of young families and don't feel that they are missing anything by leaving Catholicism.
Here is my thing. I would be happy just to leave the issue of religion alone. I do not agree with them, but I'm not going to change any minds at this point in the game. I am very happy with Catholicism, my children are happy at their Catholic school, and I am trying to do the best I can to impart Catholic values and traditions. I would be happy just to have a conversation about how the kids are doing, how the summer is going, etc. But EVERY conversation with her has to include what great programs they have at their church for the children, what wonderful classes and bible studies they have for the adults, what interesting things she is learning, etc.
Today she got started on how she doesn't use the bible that my stepson's mother gave to her because it is a Catholic Bible and has EXTRA books. Attempting to keep the conversation light, I said that maybe hers was MISSING some books - better to have too many, than not enough. Oh, no, she assures me, some MAN added them in.
Then the subject of Protestantism as opposed to Catholicism came up. She tells me that she's NOT Protestant - she's Pentacostal. That Protestantism was it's own denomination. Well, last I heard - Protestantism encompassed Baptists, Methodists, etc. To be honest, I'm not sure it encompasses Assemblies of God and what not, but I always THOUGHT that we were all Christian. Within Christianity, you have Catholics and Protestants. Are there other branches of Christianity that I've missed?
Do any of you deal with this sort of thing within your family? Truthfully, I'm not looking for a debate with her. I don't have all the answers (and maybe this is God's way of telling me that I need to educate myself better), but I do have some of them. She's not really interested in hearing what I say. I've gone head to head with my stepson on a few occasions and feel more comfortable doing that - but I'm not going to change any minds. I feel like I have a better chance of changing his mind, than hers. SHe is very gung-ho with her new church and spouts about how she HATED atttending Mass as a child. Her parents have also joined a "Bible based church" recently. With her, I'd just like to have a pleasant conversation about other things.
Some of the stuff that she comes up with is downright stupid - like trying to tell me that Cub Scouts was started as a Catholic organization. (Scouting came to the US by way of England, and I doubt very much that it was a Catholic organization in England.) This is significant to her because they have their own little scout-like group (Royal Rangers) through their church. Personally, I don't care. Scouting only acknowledges "duty to God".
Thankfully, we do not live near by, and when we visit, we find a Catholic church to attend, while they do their thing.
So I guess to summarize:
1. Why do we have extra books/why do they have missing books?
2. Am I right about Christians being either Catholic or Protestant?
3. How do you deal with this in your family if you've had similar experiences?