My 16 yo ds...

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My 16 yo ds...
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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 8:10pm

is incredibly impatient. He says he can't be himself at home, and that he is miserable. He won't elaborate or articulate anything beyond that. Then goes and takes out his frustrations on his siblings and annoys the piss out of me with his nonsense. He constantly moves his brother's stuff, nitpicks his siblings, and questions everything DH and I do.

I need some kind of guiding hand for him because I am losing my ability to cope with him and reach him. He's not reached a low enough point to qualify for some programs that I know he could benefit from, but I can't let things spiral that far downward and negatively impact the rest of the family JUST so he can qualify for something. We're stuck between a rock and a hard place and we certainly can't afford any programs out of pocket, even before we couldn't afford all the medical bills coming from my getting pregnant. This is all stressing me out incredibly and I worry about how the amount of stress I have is going to impact this child I'm carrying. My mother made life hell for me when I was pregnant with my oldest and I think part of the problem with his wiring is the fact that I was always stressed out when I was pregnant with him. I REALLY do not want a repeat of that with this baby.
~Trish

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Thu, 07-23-2009 - 8:28am

Sounds like a tough situation.


Renee


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Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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Thu, 07-23-2009 - 7:35am
Trish,

 

Ann, married to my best friend since June 5, 1999

Happy Mom to 4 boys:  Phillip (9/00), Kevin (5/02), Matthew (10/03) and Jonathan (7/06).  And 1 Girl

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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 3:09pm

Trish,


I'll say a prayer. It must be hard when one kid affects the entire family. But don't add stress by stressing about stress. I believe I read a study recently that said that a mother's stress doesn't harm her unborn baby. So it is no good for you, but the baby is fine.


Polly