My mother very upset with me
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|Mon, 08-23-2010 - 3:50pm|
I don't normally check in on this board, but my mother is so upset with me that I need some opinions. Or maybe some stories, so I don't feel like we're the only family with this problem.
My husband and I were born, baptized, raised and married Catholics. Our mothers are devoted parishioners to their churches. My father is Baptist but goes to church with mom. My father in law is Catholic but stays home on Sundays. Our first child was baptized Catholic 2 years ago. She is now 2 1/2 and we have a son who is 3 months old.
In the past 6 months, we have been practicing at a Lutheran church. The reason is because there are no churches in the area that have babysitting. I had checked with the diocese and they responded that they couldn't even find a church with babysitting. They did give us the name of a church with an enclosed area for families with kids but it's a 1/2 hour away and so noisy in there that we were unable to listen to what was going on at the altar.
Meanwhile, there's a Lutheran church within walking distance from our home that has babysitting. Many of our friends attend that church so we've been going there most Sundays.
We have our son scheduled to be baptized there in 3 weeks. My mother is furious and will most likely not be attending the ceremony. She is upset mainly that three of us are Catholic and he is being baptized a Lutheran, that we are making him feel like an outsider. She is ashamed to talk about our decision with her friends and says that this is one of the biggest mistakes of my life. She said she'd allow me to make my own decision except this one, because it's like I am committing him to a religion that he will never be able to change. (By the way, I am 40 years old, not 19.)
My argument is that he can become Catholic when he is ready to make that choice. Her response is then, "Why have him baptized now? Let him wait and be baptized a Catholic when he's ready." She'll also come up with any and every reason that my husband and I should be attending a Catholic church, despite the lack of daycare.
I'm asking for your opinion because I feel like I'm stuck in the middle. I want him baptized now and be a part of the Christian family. However, I don't want him to feel like an outsider of the family because we made this "bad" decision. My mom's emotions are clouding my judgments.
I have made an appointment with the local Catholic priest for next week.
Is there anything you can recommend my husband and I think about? Are we doing the wrong thing?