IMO, the program is EXTREME......
ours is a one year program.... students must either be enrolled in Catholic high or attend weekly RE..... then all students (regardless of school) must attend a monthly Confirmation class.... students are expected to attend 1 of two service days and do a service project on their own time (my dd donated 8 hrs of babysitting to a neighbor so her dh and mom could be with her when she gave birth)... there is a day long retreat (but it's on Presidents' Day weekend so my dd won't be attending) which is encouraged but not mandated.
I think you do what you can do and if they choose to deny a child a sacrament, then you fight the systemOur DRE has said if a family only has time for Mass or RE.... they should choose Mass
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That does sound like a lot. We do the two year program here, and I like that. I also understand it -- it keeps parents from signing their kids up for "sacrament years" and not taking them to religious ed other years. Our students also do service hours. I don't know how many, but 25/year doesn't sound excessive. I think it is great that they require the students to actually show mastery of their faith. I don't think we do that, but I wish we did.
But the meetings! That's just excessive. Sometimes people planning these things forget that many people have more than one child, and that the others require attention.
I don't see the need for all the lock-ins, either. One retreat should be plenty. The parent and sponsor meetings also seem excessive. Yes, this is important -- but if you children have been in faith formation up to this point (and they have) and your sponsor is already confirmed and practices his/her faith (which he or she must) then there has to be a lot of wasted time.
I'd share your schedule with your priest -- and your bishop, for that matter. I'd do it in the spirit of helping them understand the reality of family life. How could they know? They never will, unless someone points it out. So tell them what you told us, and remind them that family life is important to spiritual life too. If that doesn't work, I think asking your son to wait to do it with your daughter is fine, if it is o.k. with him. Maybe they'll ease up on the schedule by then, if they get enough complaints.
Thank you both for your advice.
Welcome to the board, Rose! I agree with everyone else that this seems a bit extreme. I'm not a "cradle Catholic," so I'm not familiar with the standard process yet. My oldest child is only 5. I believe our program is a year as well, and it's not as demanding as the program you've described. I can't imagine this schedule is something that is going to go over well with the other parents.
How did the meeting with your priest go?
I haven't talk to the priest yet.
Your parishes program sounds very extreme.