New here. Need Advice. WWYD?

Community Leader
Registered: 07-23-2004
New here. Need Advice. WWYD?
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Sun, 01-17-2010 - 2:27pm

Hi Ladies,


Rose

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2009
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 4:09pm

IMO, the program is EXTREME......

ours is a one year program.... students must either be enrolled in Catholic high or attend weekly RE..... then all students (regardless of school) must attend a monthly Confirmation class.... students are expected to attend 1 of two service days and do a service project on their own time (my dd donated 8 hrs of babysitting to a neighbor so her dh and mom could be with her when she gave birth)... there is a day long retreat (but it's on Presidents' Day weekend so my dd won't be attending) which is encouraged but not mandated.

I think you do what you can do and if they choose to deny a child a sacrament, then you fight the system
Our DRE has said if a family only has time for Mass or RE.... they should choose Mass

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James, Abigail, Theresa & John


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Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James,

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 9:54pm

That does sound like a lot. We do the two year program here, and I like that. I also understand it -- it keeps parents from signing their kids up for "sacrament years" and not taking them to religious ed other years. Our students also do service hours. I don't know how many, but 25/year doesn't sound excessive. I think it is great that they require the students to actually show mastery of their faith. I don't think we do that, but I wish we did.


But the meetings! That's just excessive. Sometimes people planning these things forget that many people have more than one child, and that the others require attention.


I don't see the need for all the lock-ins, either. One retreat should be plenty. The parent and sponsor meetings also seem excessive. Yes, this is important -- but if you children have been in faith formation up to this point (and they have) and your sponsor is already confirmed and practices his/her faith (which he or she must) then there has to be a lot of wasted time.


I'd share your schedule with your priest -- and your bishop, for that matter. I'd do it in the spirit of helping them understand the reality of family life. How could they know? They never will, unless someone points it out. So tell them what you told us, and remind them that family life is important to spiritual life too. If that doesn't work, I think asking your son to wait to do it with your daughter is fine, if it is o.k. with him. Maybe they'll ease up on the schedule by then, if they get enough complaints.


Good luck.


Polly

Community Leader
Registered: 07-23-2004
Sun, 01-17-2010 - 11:01pm

Thank you both for your advice.

Rose

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-1997
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 9:19am
Wow that does sound a bit extreme.

 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-23-2004
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 2:00pm
Wow, I am so sorry that they wouldn't let you be confirmed as a kid b/c your father wasn't a paying parishoner.

Rose

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2008
Fri, 01-22-2010 - 10:50am

Welcome to the board, Rose! I agree with everyone else that this seems a bit extreme. I'm not a "cradle Catholic," so I'm not familiar with the standard process yet. My oldest child is only 5. I believe our program is a year as well, and it's not as demanding as the program you've described. I can't imagine this schedule is something that is going to go over well with the other parents.

How did the meeting with your priest go?







iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-1997
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 9:24am
It could be worse.

 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-23-2004
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 9:30pm

Hi Jen,


I haven't talk to the priest yet.

Rose

Community Leader
Registered: 07-23-2004
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 9:32pm
That is terrible! I feel so bad for your nephew!

Rose

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2003
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 4:16pm

Rose,


Your parishes program sounds very extreme.

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