Is this not setting a good example

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Is this not setting a good example
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Wed, 11-18-2009 - 8:11am
A parish we used to attend but no longer for various reasons.

 

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 11:13am

Hmmmm. I really don't know. I'm trying to remember if our pastor pays during fundraisers, and I don't think I've paid enough attention. He seems to be more of a meet-and-greeter than anything. My first thought is it isn't setting a good example, but maybe he feels that he brings in funds in other ways? Not that it's an excuse, but I'm trying to think of some way to explain it.

It's an interesting question. I wonder what the others think.







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Registered: 08-17-2005
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 1:00pm

I don't know.

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Registered: 07-26-1997
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 3:44pm
I've never seen this happen at our current parish.

 

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thu, 11-19-2009 - 9:06am

oooh,that's a tough one I agree.

 

 

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Registered: 07-26-1997
Thu, 11-19-2009 - 4:44pm
It never really bothered me much.

 

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Registered: 04-02-2009
Fri, 11-20-2009 - 8:30am

I know this past spring when the women's club had their annual yard sale, Sister came in to 'shop' for the second rectory. She took what was needed for Father M which was fine because ultimately the church would be paying for it and this was a cheaper way to furnish it.

I have no problem with the pastor eating free at a fundraising meal or even having dessert. I think the taking a few loaves of bread is a bit overboard...

Renee


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Fri, 11-20-2009 - 9:55am

Ditto to everything Renee just said.


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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 1:10am

I don't think it is a good example of stewardship either. Maybe the parish food bank could have used those loaves instead after the sale and an entire family gotten some benefit from it.
My parish and my previous one had several members that would make meals for the priests, but never have I heard of a pastor taking the route of essentially mooching.
It's not Biblical, because we should call our brother's sins out to him personally, but maybe you could drop an unsigned note to him saying you've heard people say that he's had a long history of behavior at parish events that doesn't set a good example of personal stewardship, and that you felt compelled to address it to him.

Not entirely related but our last pastor caught a heaping mound of flack for a lot of things, including putting his own envelope in the collection basket each week. Someone called it self-agrandising. However, knowing Fr B's history before the priesthood, he invested for his future as a younger man outside the cloth and was simply tithing his dividends - exactly as he preached about in the homily to share time talent and treasure.

Darned if ya do, or don't sometimes.

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