Seriously outraged!

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Seriously outraged!
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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 1:51am

My youngest has been preparing all year for his First Communion. Until a couple of weeks ago, DH was deployed to Afghanistan.

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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 10:00am
That's really bad that he said you don't serve enough when you do! It makes it sound like they don't recognize or appreciate your efforts to contribute. I hope your next parish is a much better fit. :(
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Thu, 04-26-2012 - 8:36am
I happened upon this after the fact, which is probably for the best. I hope that all went well this weekend, and I'm sorry you are dealing with having a hisband away from the family. I would offer a few things for reflection, when things calm down a bit. First of all, it is easy to lose sight of what is important here and where the focus should be with everything else going on. It is definitely an important and memorable event for your child, but the main focus is Jesus. If we are, in fact, one body in Christ, then I'm not sure what the problem was with the original date with the baptisms. To welcome new people/ babies to "the family" and then to continue the celebration with First Communion. Perhaps the intentions of the one who scheduled this were nothing less than honorable, as well. Sometimes God's ways are not our ways, but ultimately God brings good out of all. Sometimes we try to tell God how things should be, and when He arranges things differently - or allows things to be arranged differently - we don't see Him at all. You need to look no further than the Apostles scattering at the Crucifixion or the 2 on the way to Emmaus to see this. I agree that it was important for your child's dad to be there -- this is an important event that should be shared by those closest -- but beyond that, all those strangers also make up part of your family. Communion, by it's very definition, is about the COMMon UNION. It's not our private dinner party with Jesus, as my pastor is fond of saying. The Mass belongs to God, not those celebrating sacraments there. We are joined with all the angels and saints at Mass. Anyway, I hope all went well with your child's First Holy Communion. I hope that such a wonderful day won't leave a bad taste in your mouth, and im sorry things were so stressful. I hope that you can find some peace with the people who make up your Church family, fellow travelers on the journey, before it is time for you to part ways. Peace, Karen

 


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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 4:16am
I don't visit here as often as I used to but I wanted to tell you I hope this journey and outcomes turns out ok... Wow, The bad taste in my mouth would be what that coordinator called FHC, no big deal? Really? I would have been so upset too and considering the circumstances I think they should have showed a little more understanding and compassion there.. I hope things go ok next week, Thoughts and Prayers.

 


 


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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 11:48pm
DH and I spoke with the priest yesterday after Mass. Asked if he had gotten the email about doing it on a weekday. He said we had changed the date too many times (no that was another parent who couldn't make up her mind) and that it was a service to the community and we don't serve enough (what???? I've taught CCD for four years, done the first communion classes for the last two and DD has been an altar server for 4 years and DH has been my teacher's aid for 3 --didn't do it this year because it's kinda hard from Afghanistan). He said do it the 28th or don't have public recognition. I said fine, but we will leave with very hard feelings and want nothing to do with this priest at all Fortunately we have a local priest filling in that day because this priest will be gone for the weekend.
I'm so done with this place which is really sad since I've been a parishioner for 6 years and have watched families come and go. It's time for my family to go. I'm surprised the Army has left us here this long, but now they say it's time to move on.
Kellie
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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 1:39pm

Wow.

 

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 11:45pm

After many emails back and forth between me and the religious ed director yesterday (me saying we'll find another day, her helping me find another day) the final straw came when the parish coordinator sent an email "confirming two baptisms and two First Communions" on the 28th to the priest celebrating Mass.

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 5:29pm
Kellie, that's terrible that the parish coordinator would do that. It seems really cold. Have you spoken to the priest yet? If not, I would. It's his parish, and I'd think he might be able to do something.

Ugh.