Should I bring entertainment to Mass?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Should I bring entertainment to Mass?
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Sun, 01-18-2004 - 11:11am
I have a 5 year old DD and a almost 2 year old DS. I am not sure what to do. Last time when we were leaving Mass the woman who had been sitting near me, explained that she brought her son a coloring book and crayons to help him get through mass. What do you think?

Do you bring entertainment and if so what?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-18-2004 - 11:31am
My personal opinion is that religious coloring books, picture books, simple picture prayer books are great. Leave the noise makers along with the crackers and other food at home or in the car.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 01-19-2004 - 11:38am
I guess it depends on which child you are talking about. My dd used to bring things with her to mass until she hit school age. Then she left them home. Our church has worksheets for the children that go with the days reading she is allowed to work on those during the homily. Now ds is 4 and he takes something small to sit and play with, usually it is 3 or 4 army guys. They keep him quit so that others can hear the homily and that I can too. I agree with food belongs left at home though for a two year old I might bring a sippy cup.

Jan

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Tue, 01-20-2004 - 3:20pm
I did for my first DD, until she was 5, then I figured she was old enough to manage without it. My second DD was much quieter, but I think I let her bring books or whatever until she was 5.

The first time I brought my son, though, he was probably 2.5yo - I totally forgot to bring anything for him, and it didn't matter. He's 3.5 now, and although he rarely comes to mass with us, he enjoys just sitting with the missal open to the same page as the rest of us, visiting the statues of Mary and the Infant of Prague, coming up to communion with me, and pretending to sing.

Kelly

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Tue, 01-20-2004 - 7:22pm
I brought things for them until they were old enough to read and follow along during mass. We use to have a church bag and the things inside of it could only be used at mass. I also would pack a snack that was not messy.

Kristen

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 10:57pm
I bring books and a snack for my nearly 3 year old. My 5 year old sometimes looks at the books too.

Polly

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 8:00am

Hi and Welcome.

 

 

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 12:51pm
Thanks everyone for your opinion. I had forgot that when DD was younger I used to bring her something to play with. We now have a much busier schedule and I have forgotten alot of the little things I used to do to make things easier. Thanks again.
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Registered: 01-24-2004
Sat, 01-24-2004 - 2:40pm
I have 3 boys 11,7, and 5. I've always brought entertainment until they are 6yrs. My 5 yr old is in K and his concept of God is more real now b/c they discuss it every day. By 1st grade he should be able to sit through mass w/o entertainment as did his brothers (plus they practice and talk about bhavior during mass in 1st grade). Before 6 yrs I usually have them bring religious themed coloring books (advent, bible stories, etc) or create a little drawing book from blank paper and designate it as the "book for church" where he can draw/write during Mass instead of talking, etc. I did that from 3 yr-6 yr. From 1-2yr, I'd let the boys take a little Thomas train, a chunky picture book, or a pretzel stick.

If you parish has a family mass, take the kids there. Our family mass is held mid morning

(kids r less likely to be hungry). During this mass the priests' homilies are presented so that the kids are included; also the kids r invited to gather around the altar. I think the kids really feel part of mass here rather that when we r upstairs at reg mass and everthing is sooo formal. If your parish doesn't have a family mass maybe u could present the idea.

It's better than the parishes that I've been to that have a crying room or nursery ...with those the kids may get a neg impression of church.