Sigh.....sometimes it hard

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Sigh.....sometimes it hard
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Mon, 04-05-2010 - 6:49pm

Just really sad as my sister, who left the faith, and always finds Catholic digs to present to me is getting married to a man that was raised Catholic, left the church, got married in a "Christian" church and is now recently divorced.

 

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Mon, 04-05-2010 - 9:04pm
I didn't know that about weddings either! That sheds some light on the behavior of one distant family member. When BIL (a fallen away Catholic) was getting married, he received a lengthy letter from a great uncle who expressed his bitter disappointment in BIL and declined to attend the wedding. I wonder how many other rules I didn't know about? This wasn't mentioned in my RCIA class.














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Registered: 09-02-2008
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 7:04pm
I completely agree. I don't understand this one at all. Maybe someone can explain the logic behind it. Is it only former Catholics' weddings or is it all non-Catholic weddings and why?














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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:08pm

It is hard when siblings whom we love, do not practice the faith (which we also love).

I found this as a guideline of when to attend a wedding and when to decline...

http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=167154

I'm not sure there are hard and fast rules, just suggestions. I think sometimes it comes down to "what is the loving thing to do?" Simple question, with difficult answers sometimes.

 


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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:28pm
Thank you for that link. Like I said before, I had no idea! This helps make sense, though.














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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:41pm

I can explain the rationale. If both parties are not Catholic, you can attend. The Catholic Church recognizes the marriage as valid.


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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 9:47pm
I never knew Catholics cannot attend former Catholic weddings in other churches.

 

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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:55am

See the soon to be husband DID have a valid Christian marriage, therefore he would need an annullment.

 
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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 9:16pm
...another example of me failing miserably at being Catholic...I would attend...I am not without sin and I do not stand in judgment...



Edited 4/7/2010 9:17 pm ET by zejayge
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 10:56am

I forgot about the divorce. Yikes, what a horrible situation! I hope your sister understands why you can't attend. I'll say a prayer that she does, so you can stand your ground without it coming between you.


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Registered: 08-11-2007
Thu, 04-08-2010 - 9:23pm
I would attend to,especially if it were my sister.Life is too short for me to judge.Of course I never knew you could not attend that type of wedding so it would never cross my mind to not attend,even if I did not agree 100% with what my sisiter were doing.

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