So words.....I have no idea

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Registered: 07-30-2009
So words.....I have no idea
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 3:27pm

So for all of you who don't know me, I have lurked on this board for a while. I finally posted a intro. message a few days ago and since then my life has spun out of control.....My husband Adama has reveled to me he has been doing herion since our daughter Zita was born(she's 2). I was so stunned but once I heard went right into action, I called for marriage counsling, a rehabe program etc. and that's when he said it....he doesn't want anything at all, he doesn't want to try and fix things. He just wants to be single and alone....he said "The only thing I want from you Bianca is to just's too much work with all these kids".(I have 4 with my late bf and 2 with my ex husband, that marriage in itself was horrible and full of abuse) He says he wants to just start over. I don't want things to end, but what do you do when he doesn't want to work things out and he just wants me out of his life......I am in utter and complete shock, he has already contacted a

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 5:10pm

Hi Bianca,

It sounds like you're having a really tough time! I would encourage you to seek offline help and dial 911 if a confrontation with your husband happens again.

It's good to hear you have support from your church. I also wanted to give you the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline:

1−800−799−SAFE (7233)