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|Mon, 11-16-2009 - 10:49am|
I found out over the weekend that my devoutly Catholic grandfather and his parents were baptized in death by my LDS sister. Her family is the only LDS branch of our family tree. I cannot express how upset this has made me. I literally feel like someone punched me in the stomach. I do understand why they did it. I know that it holds no meaning unless you believe in it. However, my grandfather knew about the LDS church in life and he rejected it. I am so angry that my sister and her husband took it upon themselves to do this. They didn't tell any of the family. Not even my grandma (his wife) knew about it. It just feels like a huge violation to me. It feels like anyone's beliefs can be brushed under the carpet when they're gone. It feels like all of the things he held sacred in life are null and void because this band of family decided that his beliefs were wrong so they'd just "fix it" for him. This sister is having Thanksgiving at her house next week and I am seriously considering not going just because I can't guarantee that I won't say something I can't take back. They keep telling my mom that we just don't understand, but I do understand. And if what they did was so great, then why not let everyone know about it before they did it?
Sorry, I'm rambling. I'm just very sad and upset by this. My mom told them last night (after she let it slip) that several of us were upset by this. BIL sent out an email to all of us making no apologies but offering to point us to scripture to justify their actions. I have never in my life wanted to tell someone what to do with their "scripture" as badly as I do right now. I'm wondering if it would have been better just not knowing. :(