Taking off my CL Hat to Probe a Question

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Taking off my CL Hat to Probe a Question
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:51am
...especially, to all of you who send your child to Parochial School. I totally feel the tug between Parochial and Public School. I grew Up Parochial, DH grew up Public. When we moved to Iowa, We moved to an area that had "Good" Schools. Well, we are in our 3rd Year of working with the School District here, and quite frankly, I feel like my child, our family is being treated as a number! I don't know if there would really be any big difference with the local parochial school. I do know a lot more families who send their children there, but outside that, all are pretty partial to the School THEIR Children go to (whether it is Parochial or Public!). I am not real impressed with the RE Program here which I have been helping out with for the second year now too. I am trying to pray on it and look at it all from my child's perspective. Yes, she is having fun. Yes, she is struggling, she is now in the 1st Grade. But I want that intimate comaradere (sp?) not her blown off. Again, I don't know if Parochial has that intimacy I am looking for but I am having a hard time with Public, I think!............

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 4:09pm
I know how serious you are in your questioning, only becuase private schooling is different from public i.e. cost, religious teachings. I think you are really special to actually think about this. If you can afford it, I say go with parochial, beucase of the privacy of thought YOU seem to ?. Esp. if/when something becomes an issue.
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:24pm
My kids go to a Catholic school, and there is absolutely NO pull between public and parochial here. That they would attend a Catholic school was a decision made before they were even conceived. I teach in the public middle school my kids would attend if they went to public school, and I do NOT want them there. In general "GOOD" would not be a word used to describe Louisiana public schools.

My DH went through 12 years of Catholic school. I went to a snobby Catholic school K-8 and then really enjoyed 4 years at an excellent public magnet HS.

Our Catholic school has only 2 classes per grade level, but even at the 1st and 2nd grades, those classes are 27 or 28 students compared to 20 or so in the public schools. But for the most part (1 notorious teacher in particular) I feel that my kids are loved and nurtured in their school.

If your DD has special needs - you say she is struggling - there might be more available for her in a public school. But I had a DS who struggled - repeated 1st grade - in the Catholic school and lived to tell about it. I also know there are a couple of autistic kids in the school, who either have an assistant provided by their parents or who get by with no extra help.

Good luck with your decision.



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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 12:24am
In my experience (with three Catholic schools...all on the smaller side), Catholic schools have what I would call a "family" environment. I would say that your child probably wouldn't feel like a number. I believe this is due to a number of different reasons. Catholic schools have their down sides (as do all things!), but if you are looking for a different type of environment I think you should look into the Catholic school system.

Good luck!


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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:29am
Jeanne, I would think that the atmosphere has a lot to do with the school and parish community and could vary quite a bit from school to school. Our son started pre-school this year at the Catholic school our children will attend. There definitely is a family atmosphere there and also a sense of shared values and commitment to raising children a certain way. (but then Catholic schools in our area are very hard to get into and so there is not a lot of non-Catholic enrollment)

We live in an area with very good public schools and our next door neighbors children, friend's of my children, will go to public school. But having been a public school teacher I had the opportunity to witness just how many sacrifices kids and parents are forced to make to educate their children in a secular environment. Teachers have to be very cautious about teaching kids right from wrong, lest it be construed as teaching morals. Kids can learn about every non-Christian thing under the sun (particularly secular humanism) but mustn't ever utter a Christmas carol around the "winter holidays" time. (Oh, but singing "Dreidel, dreidel" and reading about Ramadan is ok, because it's "multicultural education.) They are shamed through peer pressure into "hiding their light under a bush", there is no support for moral decision making or expressing one's faith in any way.

So in short (LOL) I guess for me it's really more about having my children in an environment that is supportive of their faith and where their faith can be lived throughout the day instead of something compartmentalized for CCD and Sundays only as it was for me.

Good luck in making your decision.

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