Tuesday's Topic

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:19pm

 

 

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:18pm

We haven't come to that age yet. I'm not looking forward to it although I do think about what I would respond. I don't want to introduce the pop-culture idea that it's ok not to attend mass or that it's ok to live a godless life. I want them to believe it's abnormal not to attend mass and to introduce the contrary at this age seems inappropriate to me.

I know the time will come when I will answer that question. Sooner rather than later. For a while now, my baptist aunt, when we go to visit her we go to her chruch. She doens't have kids and she likes to show my kids off. But her chruch pastor is always running down our faith under the guise of helping his flock know "the truth." My kids are now at the age of reason and will compreshend these commments. The next time we go and visit, we will go to mass...not her church. And I'll have to answer questions then...I'm not at all looking forward to it because I'll be answering questions to my aunt AND to my kids. *sigh* I can see world war three beginning already. I pray it doesn't, but I can totally see this as the end of my relationship with my aunt.

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 6:24pm

This is a tough one. Most of my family and DH's is Catholic, except for his son from his first marriage and those that don't practice anything (our brothers). Stepson and his wife have found their church home in the "Assemblies of God" churches, and it has been difficult for us. I guess it is good that they don't live near us, but my kids are still at the age where they ask if their brother is Catholic, and why he is not, what he is, etc. I don't know all the answers and just kind of muddle through and change the subject as best I can. I think it has a lot to do with the "church is supposed to be fun" mentality. There are a lot of young people there, and there are programs where they can deposit the kids. And the preacher is "on fire for the Lord." I have to walk the line between teaching our faith, and not putting their brother down. However, when they come to visit, sometimes all his wife wants to talk about is their church, and I kind of tire of hearing it. Last year when my oldest was preparing for his First Communion, she started to argue with my MIL that the Eucharist was NOT really Jesus. I had to leave on that one.

We were recently at Disney World for Mardi Gras week. My SIL, BIL, niece and nephew were also there at the same time. We have visited there a couple of times, and have found a church in Orlando that we've been to 3 times now on Saturday evening. We invited the in-laws to come with us - they ARE practicing Catholics - but they didn't "have time." Then on Ash Wednesday and Friday, we heard the "we're on vacation" excuse about not fasting or abstaining from meat. I don't believe you leave your faith behind when you go on vacation, but to each his own. Our kids are old enough to see that difference, and that was enough for me. Ours didn't question us, but knowing my youngest, I'm sure the wheels were turning in his head.

Karen

 


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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 8:53pm

Oh my! I have to admit I use my mother's line on this one.
"You have to go to Mass because I am your mother and it is my responsibility to see that you go."
I grew up in a "mixed marriage". My mother was Catholic and my father was a non-practicing Methodist. I remember asking my mom if I could be Methodist because they "stayed on the couch and watched TV on Sunday." LOL

The sad thing is, my dd is taking first communion classes. The teacher asks how many children went to Mass last week, and only a third raise their hands.
Sharon

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:16pm

Yep, I know what ya'll are going through. I certainly do. = (


It's an unhappy reality for us. My parents are Catholic; my father is a deacon and my mum is the director of religious education, and we live with them, so my children are immersed in a Catholicism. (Yay!!!!!!) However, we only have an itty bitty group of friends, and they are non-Catholic. Those are easier to deal with, for I can answer Essie's questions with the idea that those people have not been given the chance to really know and love Jesus and we pray for them, and such.


I am praying with my WHOLE heart and soul for some good old orthodox (yet fun, LOL) Catholics to come into our lives, so I can have Catholic friends with Catholic kids who can play with mine. (I wish you lived down here Kimberly! LOL)


The real difficult issue --- which made me think of this as Tuesday's Topic --- is my brother. He recently moved out of the house and moved in with his girlfriend. He and I are close; as close as you can get to someone who thinks you're a nut for being a practicing Catholic ... However, he asked me point-blank if I would go over to his house for dinner, and I said no. I said it lovingly -- really! I did! ---

 

 

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