Update from my Priest and Masonry

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Update from my Priest and Masonry
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Wed, 09-02-2009 - 7:47pm

Hi Ladies ~


I met with my priest today and it took everything I had to not break down into a complete crying baby!!!


I feel so torn with everything that is going on. I know I am being tested. I turned

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 1:13am
My prayers for strength and guidance are with you. You're so very right in that you are being tested. Keep in mind that so is your husband, except he's not aware of it like you are. Before you present your information to your DH, pray for the gift of the right words to reach him.
~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

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~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Sat, 09-05-2009 - 8:04pm

Trish ~


Thank

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Registered: 06-11-2007
Mon, 09-07-2009 - 12:53am

It is unfortunate for someone to meddle and intervene in things like they did and direct your husband to the board like they did.

I can understand your need to focus on your marriage and respect that 100%. I can only imagine that your husband was put on the defensive in a very large scale, and that doesn't help either. It is already challenging enough to have an interfaith relationship without additional influences making it more challenging. Your husband likely doesn't understand where you come from in your Catholicism, and likewise, as a Catholic, it's difficult to meld your faith, culture and entire understanding of both with someone who doesn't share the same, and perhaps even speaks negatively about it. So the two perspectives rub the wrong way with each other. Frustration came through your posts, more so than anything else. When your husband read the posts, he likely saw it as angry attacks against him, and as an assault to your relationship. Of any place, this board is very much pro-marriage, pro-family, and the general consensus would be that you and your husband need to work together to figure out this current crossroad in your marriage. We can give our two cents on something, but ultimately the ones living in the marriage have the final say in what happens. I would hate to see you leave the board over this, but also understand that day to day life trumps an internet forum.

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
--old Irish blessing

Irish siggy courtesy beaches59

~Trish

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face;
the rains fall soft upon your
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Registered: 04-02-2009
Mon, 09-07-2009 - 8:53am
Praying that someone did not meddle in something that was none of their concern.
It could be that your dh saw this site bookmarked and found his way here himself.
praying for you as you deal with this difficulty

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James, Abigail, Theresa & John

Renee


Wife to Scott


Mom to: Madeleine, James,

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Mon, 09-07-2009 - 10:05am

Trish and Renee ~


Thank you both for you kind words and prayers. It is unfortunate that someone did this.


My DH had no idea I was posting on this board as we each have our own computer and I dont bookmark many pages. He would not tell me who sent him to this site, but in some respects I must thank that person for doing so.


My DH and I had a BIG blow out the other day and last night we had a good talk about some books I have purchased and why I purchased them. I read to him some emails from a website I registered on about Marriage Fitness. To my surprise, DH was very interested and really liked the way the marriage fitness was presented. One of the books I purchased was from the expert who does this Marriage program. DH wants to read the book together and if it is worth it he suggested we sign up for the program. It isnt cheap, but it may be worth every penny and more if it can turn things around.


So whoever the informant is...you know who you are - Thank you for bringing my husband back to me! I truly do appreciate it.


I can not say that the marriage will ever be perfect, but I have no intention of giving up. I never did. For the first time in a long time, I felt really close to my husband last night while we were talking. It was a great feeling. It is my intention to keep working in the positive direction. Even if I do not agree or cannot support his decisions, it doesnt mean I will love him any less than I always have!


I will try to come back again after I get everything straightened out at home.

**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Wed, 09-16-2009 - 5:48pm

Jennifer, I was just thinking about you in prayer today.

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Wed, 09-16-2009 - 6:17pm

Kimberly ~


Thank you so much for your thoughts and encouragement.


I have been doing a lot of praying and reading for the betterment of my marriage. There is one book that I would recommend to anyone who has hurt in their marriage. The book title is Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage. It was a very informative and insightful reading.


My husband is currently out of town on a business trip. He took the book with him to read if he had time. We shall see.


When he gets home from his trip, we agreed to sit down and talk about some things in order to figure everything out. Although I did make it clear that I will not support his need to be a Mason. I also told him to inform the Grand PoohBah that I do not agree and do not support. He said he already has. Unfortunately, it doesnt appear that family is all that important to the Masons. On their website they say that family comes first.


It is going to take a lot of time and devotion to one another in order to get everything smoothed over. I am cautiously optimistic. I am ready to fight for my marriage and that is what is important at this point.


Thank you for your prayers. I will definitely read Tobit and I do hope to be able to become a regular member of this board, but I think there are other things needing to be resolved before that can happen.


**but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.  Isa

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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 12:04am

Wow -- I really can't believe that someone did that. I'm glad it worked out for the best, but it absolutely terrible that anyone would invade your privacy like that.


I just wanted to say that I'm so happy that things are going in the right direction. I don't think that the Masons are a deal-breaker, and I was happy to hear that your priest said that you could love him without supporting that one decision. While I understand that the Church's