5 year old only child
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|Sun, 06-22-2003 - 9:47pm|
I have a 5 year old who is an only child. I am a SAHM so she is with me 24/7. When dh comes home I let her run her day by him this takes around 10 minutes. Then I tell her that it is mommy and daddy's time to talk. We cannot sit on the couch or at the table with out her "talking" so loudly that it drowns our converstaion out or interuptions.
My husband and I cannot and I mean CANNOT talk with her in our face every second. She is constantly interrupting us, she will not play on her own! She has computer games, TONS of toys and games. Godforbid she should do something on her own. I do not do everything for her, i encourage her to do things on her own that I know she can do by herself.
Then during dinner time all I hear is "can we go to the park, mommy lets go to the park" she repeats this for the entire dinner. We tell her that we are eating and we are not going to talk about the park. Then she sits for a minute then starts right back up "ok after we eat we are going to the park ok mommy, I'll ride my bike" By now I have lost my cool, and tell her not to mention the park again. And my dh wants to sit an watch a program on tv together. Then if it is not the park she sqawking abt its "I wanna watch cartoons, mommy/daddy turn on cartoons" and there are things that dh and I want to watch, she runs the tv all day between going to the park, swimming playing games she THINKS she has to watch cartoons. we have told her that mommy and daddy enjoy watching a tv show and it is not her tv. We read TONS of books, go to the library etc....
We are home all day and during the day we go to the park for atleast 2 hours in the AM when it's cooler, and then we will go swimming in the afternoon. I play games with her so does DH.
She will not shut up when dh and I try talking or do anything. I know that sounds mean or bad but it is getting on my nerves. I cannot even take a shower with out her coming in every 2 minutes or so to ask if she can go to the park or buy a new stuffed animal.
We have made it clear that everytime we go to the store she cannot get something everytime. And she does not get stuff everytime. But she just will not let things drop.
Is there such a thing as "parental burn-out?" Becuase I am at the end of my rope. I cannot enjoy my time with dh. Our sex life sucks. Wer cannot have time together or a chance to talk becuase dd is constantly in my face every chance she gets. Dh pays the same amount of attention to her as well. We have explained to her a million times that mommy and daddy need time to talk when daddy gets home. It is hard to wait until she goes to bed, because i have a very short memory sometimes and I need to say it right then and there.
She WILL NOT play in her room or by herself. I have told her that she needs to use her immagination and learn to play things BY HERSELF, and that I do not need to be right by her every second and she needs to do stuff on her OWN. I need "me time" and "dh time"
What can I do..........I am so frustrated i could scream!
sorry for long post