Bedtime Question

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Bedtime Question
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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 9:48pm
What time does your child go to bed? My fisrt daughter always went to bed every night at about 7:30 or 8 as a five year old. My second daughter now just refuses to sleep even though I can tell she's tired. She just fell asleep tonight at about 9:30 and I feel this is way too late. Is it or does it just depend on the child. She still gets up and goes to school although she seems a little tired every morning no matter when she goes bed because she's less than thrilled to be woken up for school. Any advice?

THanks a lot,

Marie

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Wed, 04-09-2003 - 9:58pm
Are you watching what she's eating after 5:00? Maybe sugars or any drinks w/caffiene should be avoided? Is she still napping during the day? If so, wean her from naps.

Also, I'd put her in her bed at 8:30, lights out. And tell her to stay there. If she wants to stay awake that's fine, she can use her imagination to think up stories or sing songs to herself, but not to get out of bed. Eventually, the routine will be exactly that and she'll start to drift off at a more appropriate time for her body.

My ds usually hits the sheets between 8:30 - 9:00. Weekends, a little later but then he sleeps a little later.


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Sparks

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 7:13am
Is this typical for her any time of year, or is it possible she's still adjusting to the time change? because it was only just last week that 9:30 would have been 8:30. . . not so far off what you'd expect.

My DS is usually down by 8:45 and out by 9. He gets up between 7 and 7:30 pretty consistently. If you're having to wake her up, she's not getting enough sleep for her needs.

HTH.

Donna

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 9:25am
Shelby has to be in bed at 8:30 on week nights. Sometimes she goes to be earlier on her own but at 8:30 she has to be in bed with lights off. On Friday and Saturday nights, she can stay up as late as she wants as long as she is behaving.

Shelby is grouchy in the mornings. I don't think really has anything to do with sleep for her she is not a morning person just like her mom.

Amy, Shelby & Emily

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 10:22am
My 4.5 yr. old is in bed around 8:30 pm. Some nights she goes right to sleep & some nights she asks to read for a while. I will turn out the lights by 9 pm. She gets up on her own around 7 am, happy to start the day. She stopped napping before she turned 3.

Most kids this age need an average of 11 hours of sleep. My DD has always needed a little less than kids her age. I also agree that time change due to daylight savings can upset the schedule for a while. Or perhaps your daughter needs more activity to wear herself out. Good luck, JoAnn

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 10:55am
Hollyann(5 1/2) and Tristan(almost-7) have always been early to bed and early to rise. Actually, they are early to rise regardless of what time they go to bed - be it 6pm or midnight, they will be awake and raring to go between 6:30 and 7am!! So, bedtime for them is 8pm, without a fight. If they want to watch television in their room, then I encourage them to go up early and watch, but it's off by 8. On the weekends, they can stay awake as "late" as they want, but they still normally crash aroun 8:30 or 9.

A few yrs ago, they were going to bed between 6:30 and 7 and sleeping almost 12hrs a night. Gee, I miss those days!! ROFL I really had no choice, tho....they were 2 1/2 and 4, and hubby was deployed with the Navy, and I needed some sense of sanity. Putting them to bed that early was giving them almost 13hrs of sleep a night (they would wake between 7 and 7:30) and they would wake in rather good moods.

Yes, it does depend on the child, but I also agree with the comment made earlier about watching what the kids are eating between dinner and bed. Even the most subtle of snacks can often times leave a *charge* in the kids which leaves them wired for hours. Also, maybe start a new routine with her to help her mind unwind from the day. Start reading, or soothing music that she likes......something that is started roughly 10-15mins before bedtime to just help her mind/body adjust to sleep mode. One thing I did with my kids that they still request at times is lotioned massages. Tristan is on the autistic spectrum, so the touches were soothing to him, and Hollyann just loved the feel and smell of the lotion (simple basic baby lotion). Small amounts, rubbed slowly on their backs, legs, arms, while talking quietly. They were normally alseep within 15mins after doing that! LOL

Hope some of that helps a little.

~Carrie

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 11:29am
My DD Shelby (4) goes to bed between 8:30 and 9. She doesn't always fall asleep right away, but she is not allowed to get up. But if I have to wake her up she is grouchy no matter what time she goes to bed, she is not a morning person. This last week has been hard on her with the time change.

Kris

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 12:13pm
Making a time to calm down before bed can help. It does with Tre.

Tre goes to bed at 7 o'clock, sometimes 7:30. For a while there we were not paying attention to it and boy did we pay the price! He was so challenging! I have found that some days he is just too wired to sleep. What I do on those days is offer him so time to read or listen to stories in his Pooh house after a warm bath. The reason I do it in his Pooh house is so that he doesn't feel like he's in bed for ever before bed, and I have less resistnace form him that way. HE feels like he gets to move around still, LOL! Mommy tactics! *wink* Books and tapes are best because he can use his body to turn the pages rather than sit completely still. After a half hour of reading books or listening, I tell him it's lights out and he is to be in bed. I play meditative tapes or CDs for him until he falls asleep. I have one that I like in particular because she talks of blessings and blowing love out to others when you breathe...very cute for little ones. Anyway, that helps. Do you think giving her a "Quiet Time" before bed would help? She may not be sleeping, but at least she is resting. The other thing is to wear her little booty out during the day with lots of exercise. If her day is pretty easy going, she may not have worked out enough to even be sleepy. KWIM? =)

HTH

Janet =)

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Thu, 04-10-2003 - 9:31pm
Hmmmm...is she getting some exercise like riding a bike or something to make her physically tired?...I know if my kids are not that active ...then sometimes they are not as tired but shcool usually does the trick,lol...but they go to bed around 8:00 and then dd8 has to be waken at 6:55am and ds5 wakes by himeself around 6:00 but lately it has been around 7:00 since the time change:)

Lisa