Bug phobia

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Bug phobia
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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 8:53pm
My dd will be four in a couple of months. Last summer she developed a fear of bugs. She would panic whenever one was near. I gently worked with her, telling her they wouldn't hurt her, calling them Mr. Ant and Mrs. Spider, etc., until she got to the point where she would run up to ants and say, "Hello Mr. Ant!". Her fear seemed to lessen a little. But this summer, I think it's developed into a phobia. If she sees a fly in the house she will FREAK OUT, screaming and running hysterically from the room, sobbing. Today she was riding a mechanical horse that she *loves* at a local store. A fly flew near her and she nearly jumped off the moving horse! All day today she's been hysterical because it's summer and the bugs are out. My outgoing little girl suddenly doesn't want to go outside. Has anyone else been through something like this?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: newisumom
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:38am
Hi, my son will be 6 in September and he definitely went through a "scary bug" phase. Mostly it had to do with bees/wasps. I know part of the problem was me - I am very afraid of them and when I'd see one outside I would run/duck, etc. I wouldn't scream of course but kids pick up on that fear. So for him that transferred to fear of other, non-threatening bugs too. I would say it was the worst the summer he was 4, so probably the same age as your daughter now. It has definitely gotten better. I've learned to not react as much and I think it's just something he had to grow out of. Also I think part of it is that now that he's older he's more active, and more interested in the other kids he's playing with or the game, or whatever, and not noticing every little thing flying around him! We have a large sandbox in our yard that he loves playing in, but the first year was hard b/c of the bug thing. Last summer was much easier and this year so far, so good. I think your tactic of just being calm and explaining that they won't hurt her is the best way to go - and hopefully she'll outgrow it. I think it's very common. Good luck!
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Registered: 06-04-2006
In reply to: newisumom
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:44pm
Well i don't have a child with the phobia..but i HAVE the phobia. I developed it when i was younger tho. Mostly to wasps. But when i'm outside i get paranoid as can be an everything that comes around me is a wasp. So i panic..jerk...run...some cases cry, scream. I know its horrible. Its so embarrassing. I have a 10month old an i'm working on it for him..but it really has ruined my life. I'm 21 btw. I spent my teen years locked up in a bedroom with a computer an wouldn't go outside until it was dark. Now that i'm older....i've been trying to take my son outside more an just breathe through it. I still panic if i see one..but i'm taking baby steps....good luck!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: newisumom
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 9:17pm

Hi, mommy! My question to you is does she still want to GO OUTSIDE? As long as she is still willing to do outdoor things and just freaks out when it happens, I think

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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: newisumom
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 12:30pm
Oh yes my daughter turned 5 in April and she still has a phobia of bugs of any type. Our daughter sounds just alike. She too runs arounds around as if she is on fire. It has gone way overboard with her. Nothing seems to work to calm her nerves other than get out of the insect. The worse for her is anything flying or spiders. I am hoping she will evnetually outgrow it. We have been going thru this for 3 years now and it has not let up. I guess we all have fears of some kind. Hopefully she will get thru this soon. Trish :)
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In reply to: newisumom
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 3:13pm
Same boat, here. Yesterday, my dd ran upstairs screaming and crying because there was a teeny, tiny fly in the kitchen. The only horrible part of this "phase" is when a "freak-out" occurs in the car -- I've had to pull over on several occasions to get a bug out of the car (to avoid a car accident caused by the screaming). Since I can't tell her not to be scared (after all -- if she is scared, she is scared -- no matter how irrational), we just try to work on the reaction (i.e., "it is very dangerous when you scream in the car, because Mommy could get into an accident, so just try to tell me calmly and I'll pull over to get the bug out"). Otherwise, I'll trust that she will grow out of this by college.