Confusing Behavior

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Registered: 12-11-2003
Confusing Behavior
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Mon, 01-26-2009 - 5:46pm

My 4yo can be a sensitive guy and gets frustrated easily sometimes (when he is not getting his own way!).

 
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 1:08am

It is normal but hard to see a child do. Does he see you and his dad making mistakes? How do you and his dad react when you make mistakes? You might need to make a big deal about how you handle things when you do make a mistake so he can see how you deal with it. Philip use to think we never made mistakes or found things hard. We started talking through some of our problems so he could see us solve them. It felt silly but it really did let him see how to solve a problem.

It is hard for kids to get that we all make mistakes and that we deal with them and move on. It doesn't make us dumb, stupid or silly to not know the answer to something, or how to do something, or even make mistakes. It is a problem if you don't learn from your mistakes, not if you make them.

Some of the best inventions have been mistakes. Post-it notes were a result of a failed experiment to develop a super strong adhesive. Cooking foods with microwaves was discovered by accident when the inventor noticed that a candy bar in his pocket had melted when he was working with radar. There are a number of successful companies that were originally thought to be stupid or unrealistic ideas when their founders first pitched their ideas to investors, professors or bosses. There are a number of actors who were told they couldn't act or would never amount to anything that went on to win Oscars and receive acclaim from critics and the public. Can you tell I've had a similar conversation before?

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 12:09pm

My dd loves the Sesame Street song, "Everyone Makes Mistakes," sung by Big Bird. I think it helps her keep mistakes in context. Sometimes after she makes a mistake and looks at me worried, I'll just start singing the song to her, and it relaxes her.

Here are the lyrics to the song, but it's much better with the music (maybe your library would have it?):

EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES
sung by Big Bird (Carroll Spinney)
Written by Jeff Moss

I've a special secret children ought to know;
It's about the little mistakes you make as you begin to grow.
If you make a mistake, you shouldn't start to cry.
Mistakes are not so bad, and here is why:

Oh everyone makes mistakes.
Oh, yes they do
Your sister and your brother and your dad and mother too;
Big people, small people, matter of fact, all people!
Everyone makes mistakes, so why can't you?

If you make a mistake while counting to ten,
Well don't get mad and don't be sad;
Just start to count again.
And if you should only get to eight or nine,
I'm still your friend and I still like you fine,

'Cause everyone makes mistakes.
Oh, yes they do
Your sister and your brother and your dad and mother too;
Big people, small people, matter of fact, all people!
Everyone makes mistakes, so why can't you?

If you spill a glass of milk all over the floor,
Well, your mom and dad still like you just as much as they did before,
'Cause when Mother and Dad were just as small as you,
I'll bet that they knocked their milk over too.

'Cause everyone makes mistakes.
Oh, yes they do
Your sister and your brother and your dad and mother too;
Big people, small people, matter of fact, all people!
Everyone makes mistakes, so why can't you?

If everyone in the whole wide world makes mistakes,
Then why can't you?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 12:33pm

What a cool song. I'm going to go looking for it because I think Lindsay could use this reminder about mistakes.

I wonder if I can find it on youtube. hmmm, off to check.

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Registered: 12-11-2003
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 12:47pm
Thanks......my son loves songs!
 
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