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|Fri, 09-05-2008 - 11:44am|
This maybe long so bear with me please. Not sure where else to go right this second.
About 9 months ago or so, I was giving my son a bath and while helping to wash him, he said "don't suck me pee pee". I felt everything go black and if I weren't sitting I would have fallen. I tried to not over react. I simply asked him "now who would do that?" And then calmly, "has anyone ever done that?" He said no, he was just saying that we don't do that.
My immediate thoughts went to a family friends foster daughter who is 2 years older than him and was molested by her uncle and was made to watch her moms boyfriend perform sexual acts on her mom. Now I NEVER allow these two alone for that reason. She is many behavior problems and I just prefer to always know what is being said and done when they play together.
I asked my MIL if she had allowed the two to be alone together at all and she had for a few minutes. Now I don't know what the likely hood is of anything being said in that brief time is but it's the only thing that came to mind. Our friend later nonchalantly asked her foster child if she and my DS talked about these things. She denied it but who knows. Well, I also spoke with his teachers at preschool to see if any of the kids had issues. They looked into it and couldn't find anything that raised a red flag for them.
Skip ahead to today. My MIL came over and she was very upset. I worked midnights and she was covering from the time my DH left until I got home, about 2 hours. When she was changing my 10 month old son, she said to him "I'm gonna kiss your nose" and my 5 year old said "I'm gonna suck your p... I mean nose". My MIL asked him if one of the older neighbor boys said something to him. He just looked at her all wide eyed.
He is at school now and I'm not sure how to approach this. He asked her not to tell Mommy. Now I would NEVER be upset with him or punish him, I'm just scared to death someone may have touched him! I don't allow him in the neighbors houses. I always make sure I can see him at all times when he plays outside.
We have a very good life. My DH and I are very loving and our family is close. I hate to even consider it, but I just can't think of anyone who would have the chance to do something to him as we are are always together. I keep thinking it was maybe one of the older boys making a lude comment that my DS over heard. The neighbor boys are 14, 13, 9, 8 and my son is 5 then his two little 4 year old friends.
Any thoughts or ideas of how to approach this sensitive subject? Please, any thoughts would be appreciated!