Does your child have a best friend yet?

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Registered: 08-28-2004
Does your child have a best friend yet?
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:14pm

How many good friends does your 5 year old have? How many playdates per week do they have? My daughter (who is very shy) has a neighborhood best friend who she sees once per week, sometimes more. She also has a couple other friends that she plays with much less often (and she does not really click with them that well.) She really only clicks with this one girl (in our neighborhood) and prefers her over anyone else. She considers this girl her best friend. But her "best friend" has MANY other close friends and is playing with someone every single day. I have started wondering if THAT is the norm? For a 5 year old to have that many close friends (at least 5) and have some sort of playdate each day? I don't think my daughter's "best friend" feels exactly the same way my daughter does. In fact, I think the girl considers someone else her best friend. Regardless, am I cheating my daughter somehow because she is not playing with someone many times per week? Is it the norm to be so social at age 5? I worry my daughter should be playing more and have more close friends.
Thanks!

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Registered: 08-20-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 12:48am

My DD is only 4.2 so I hope you don't mind me answering this.


We are lucky to live in a subdivision literally FULL of kids, so playdates are somethign we don't really do!


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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 9:21am
That's the thing. My daughter feels so strongly about this one girl that it is frightening! And I don't think the feeling is very mutual. This girl is very social and plays with someone each day (not just neighborhood kids.) We don't have very many neighborhood kids my daughter's age. So should I be out there working to find her a playmate for each day?
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Registered: 08-20-2003
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 11:52pm

Is there things you can get her involved in---dance, tumbling, soccer, art classes, etc... something that she can get out there and meet other kids?


Might be an idea!



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Sun, 07-15-2007 - 3:47pm

Oh my goodness, no. It is perfectly fine to have one or two friends and have other aquaintances.

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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 5:30pm

I would say that Audrey really only has real "friend" at this point, a little boy (my friend's ds) that she has literally known since pretty much the womb. They live quite a ways away (about an hour), but we try to meet halfway for playdates on a regular basis. Still, it probably only averages to every other week or so. She has always socialized appropriately with the other kids at preschool or at her activities, but it's never turned into a situation where we've gotten to know them well enough to have a lot of playdates. And while we do live in a subdivision, we only moved in last year and know the few people on our private lane, none of whom have kids Audrey's age.


I'm not to worried about it at this point, although I also know people whose children have many more playdates and sometimes I find myself wondering if I'm doing her a disservice. But then I think about how busy my life already tends to be, especially during the school year (when I am also teaching preschool in addition to helping out at the boy's elementary school), and the thought of spending every afternoon or weekend trying to fulfill a "playdate quota" is overwhelming. LOL

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