Four Year old won't go to sleep~! help?!

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Registered: 03-21-2008
Four Year old won't go to sleep~! help?!
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 11:11am

Hi- i'm a brand new memeber hoping for some help & advice... things have gotten bad in our house because our 4-year old dtr fights going to bed. She';ll be fine after stories, then i lie with her and creep out but she wakes right up. If i don't stay agin she'll WHINE, CRY and then stomp and throw things.

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Registered: 11-21-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 12:09am

Hi and Welcome!!

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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 9:26am

Thank you for your reply... so you think i shouldn't even lie with her at all for bedtime?

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:13pm

I agree with the previous poster...at this age it is not too

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Registered: 03-24-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:46pm

Oh my gosh there is someone out there in the same shoes as me! I live with my mother in law and my daughter will not go to sleep with out someone with her ( which is the in law) and if she starts in her bed she will wake up in the middle of the night and yell for her Memaw(the in law) to come get her. I am at my breaking point. My daughter has gotten to be like yours she will not listen to me. If I tell her no she goes to my mother in law and she gives it to her. I have tried to get my daughter to sleep in her bed she wont. One time recent we spent from 3am to 6am fighting with her to sleep in her bed. We never had a problem until we had to move in with his mom, she would sleep in her bed all night. which was right before she turned 3. she will be 5 this year and she wont stay in her bed. I dont know what else to do either. I have been temped to shut her in her room but I just cant bring my self to do that. If you get some good adivce if you wouldnt mind passing it

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Registered: 11-21-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 8:27am

I really think you should not lay next her at all...


How is she doing?

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Registered: 03-21-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 9:58am

THanks... Last night i didn't lay with her. I told her that i could stay with her for 10 minutes and then i had to go.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:33pm
I send my 4 yo DS to his room when he whines. I just tell him I don't like whineing and I'm not going to listen to it and if he wants to do it then he can just go upstairs and do it. It usually stops right there. OR whine back to her, it'll make her laugh and she'll stop.





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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:07pm
hello!! well, i had a lot of problems with my oldest and bedtime. she is almost 8 and i still have fights now and then. now her sister (my 4 year old)has always been and still is-a great sleeper. she never had to make a transition from crib to bed-i put her in bed, she went out like a light. its strange how different they are. but im glad that the op is having some luck getting her dd to sleep. what might help is get a tv, put it in there-let her watch a video and a show until a certain time at which you will turn it off. or set a sleep timer and it goes off by itself. this helped my oldest dd out. usually i will get her in bed by about 9 and the tv goes off around 10. she also has a bear that "protects" her from bad dreams. we also put a hook-and-eye lock on her closet door (cuz the "big kitty" lived in there and we had to keep him locked in). the littlest things make the biggest difference. i like the idea of limiting the time you lay with your child too. we used to have our dd fall asleep in our bed and when she was good and asleep, i could move her. or we used to drive around and get her to fall asleep in the car. i dont recommend either-lol-even though the car rides werent too bad cuz my hubby and i could talk and enjoy the time out. but weith gas prices, i cant imagine doing it now@@. take care!!
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 11:37am

I'm new to this board, but wanted to add my 4 yr old daughter stays up until midnight or later most nights. She will lay down and look at a book or lay with her babies or wahtever but she will not go to sleep.


It all started when my dh started working second shift. He goes in at 2:30pm and gets home around midnight or later. I think she feels insecure in some way, with him not being here. Because as soon as he gets home and tells her good night, she goes straight to sleep.


I try laying down with her, but as soon as I get up, she wakes up. It's not really a big issue right now. But she will be starting preschool and I will be going back to school in August, so we really need to work on it over the next couple of months.


Anyway, just wanted to let all you other parents with night-owls know that you're not alone! Unfortunately. lol


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