HELP! 5 year old won't go outside(m)

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HELP! 5 year old won't go outside(m)
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 2:54pm
to play because he says he is afraid of bees. And of course everything that flies is a bee. Can anyone give me some suggestions on how to handle this as I don't want him to sit inside all summer. Thanks. Sorry I haven't posted in a long time, been swamped with the apt complex but I am usually lurking. Shelly
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 3:12pm
I say go to the library and find a good book on bugs, one with pictures and text that is easy for your ds to understand. Let him see what the different bugs look like, and the benefits that they have (hard to believe they actually do! LOL) Let him see that the majority of bugs do not bite or sting, and let him know how to avoid getting stung.

Then MAKE him go outside, at first (if he's really giving you a hard time) take that library book out with you and try to identify the bugs you see. After that, just ignore the bugs altogether. They aren't going to go away, and he will miss out on so much fun if he lets them "win". Also, if it were my ds, I wouldn't be beyond saying, "Fine, you don't want to go outside? Well, you can sit on your bed while the rest of us go out and have a good time!" My ds cannot stand it when I do that! (And trust me I have!)

Good luck!

Stephanie

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 4:36pm
How about a little bug repellent? I agree that education about bugs is key, but some bug spray might offer psychological protection as well. If he feels safe and knows that many bugs are good for plants (ladybugs eating aphids, e.g.) as well as being tasty snacks for the birds, maybe he'll venture out. My son worries about being stung too, and is constantly reminding me that "flies can't hurt you" or "that bug doesn't bite." I realized that that's is his way of reassuring himself on the topic.

Oh, and my grandfather's adage, "They're more afraid of you than you are of them" might help too. It worked for me!

Good luck, and I hope you get some outside time soon!

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 6:43pm
shelly - I agree with the next poster that the library is a great resourse..... last year I had 2 problems with my then 18 month old, one was she was afraid of the bath and the other was bugs - any bug. Now after reading almost every fun bug book she knows they all have a purpose and what to do to avoid them. Plus my oldest (now 5) is studiing them at school so we have pictures of them all around various parts of the house. Don't worry just a phase, but education (subtly) is the key to cure his bug blues LOL.

Andrea

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 6:46pm
oh and also wanted to add... that after all that education she had a tick on her last year and another so far this year (I know early isn't it). I would have expected her to freak (golly, I did but stayed calm for her benefit) and she was cool with it... all 3 of my girls (5, almost 3, and almost 2) wanted to see the bug (I put it in a container and covered it with plastic wrap). The sucker stayed alive for more then 2 hours with hardly any air. They were so fasinated by it. So it will pass.

Andrea

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 2:02pm
You got great advice here. One more thing I wanted to add i that you go over her fears with her. Ask her what if questions, like: What if you got stung? What would we do? Keep going until you get to the healing process and always end the discussion with "and then your booboo would go away." Just help her see beyond the initial fear. KWIM? I'm sure it will be short lived. The other thing is, maybe you can take her out when the bees are not so bad. In all honesty, I can't see "me" wanting to go out all that much with bees buzzing around me either. *blushing*

Let us know how things go!

Janet =)

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